26 Jun 2023, 11:54 am
26 Jun 2023, 5:18 pm
No paywall, no problem.
Persistent rejection in the mating market can lead to dysphoric singlehood, including feeling "not good enough" and like one must radically change to be considered “worthy” by the opposite sex. These feelings can be projected inwards, causing people to feel defeated and anxious, or outwards as anger and hostility towards rejectors.
This anger and hostility can sometimes take the form of misogyny and misandry -- hateful attitudes and beliefs about women and men. And when these attitudes and beliefs spill into behavior, they become a problem for society in ways ranging from cyberbullying to rare cases of violence. They also cause problems for the misogynists and misandrists themselves, who can get caught in a positive feedback loop.
My first reaction is,"Well, DUH!" The first two paragraphs lay out what most of us already know.
The rest is a build-up to an equally obvious "cure" . . .
To break free from the cycle of rejection and misogyny or misandry, it's crucial to recognize its impact both on ourselves and others. By identifying it and embracing self-development and change, we can overcome these patterns and cultivate healthier relationships.
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27 Jun 2023, 3:05 am
Persistent rejection in the mating market can lead to dysphoric singlehood, including feeling "not good enough" and like one must radically change to be considered “worthy” by the opposite sex. These feelings can be projected inwards, causing people to feel defeated and anxious, or outwards as anger and hostility towards rejectors.
This anger and hostility can sometimes take the form of misogyny and misandry -- hateful attitudes and beliefs about women and men. And when these attitudes and beliefs spill into behavior, they become a problem for society in ways ranging from cyberbullying to rare cases of violence. They also cause problems for the misogynists and misandrists themselves, who can get caught in a positive feedback loop.
My first reaction is,"Well, DUH!" The first two paragraphs lay out what most of us already know.
The rest is a build-up to an equally obvious "cure" . . .
To break free from the cycle of rejection and misogyny or misandry, it's crucial to recognize its impact both on ourselves and others. By identifying it and embracing self-development and change, we can overcome these patterns and cultivate healthier relationships.
About 95% of the words could be removed from that article with no loss of meaning or nuance. I wonder whether they are using computers to generate their articles?
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27 Jun 2023, 4:23 am
Persistent rejection in the mating market can lead to dysphoric singlehood, including feeling "not good enough" and like one must radically change to be considered “worthy” by the opposite sex. These feelings can be projected inwards, causing people to feel defeated and anxious, or outwards as anger and hostility towards rejectors.
This anger and hostility can sometimes take the form of misogyny and misandry -- hateful attitudes and beliefs about women and men. And when these attitudes and beliefs spill into behavior, they become a problem for society in ways ranging from cyberbullying to rare cases of violence. They also cause problems for the misogynists and misandrists themselves, who can get caught in a positive feedback loop.
My first reaction is,"Well, DUH!" The first two paragraphs lay out what most of us already know.
The rest is a build-up to an equally obvious "cure" . . .
To break free from the cycle of rejection and misogyny or misandry, it's crucial to recognize its impact both on ourselves and others. By identifying it and embracing self-development and change, we can overcome these patterns and cultivate healthier relationships.
And the water is wet.
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27 Jun 2023, 4:28 am
But it's not always the case, not everyone is in a "vicious cycle"
Sometimes it is more like that:
[Very low mate value due to innate propreties & life conditions] --> [Rejection] --> [Indiffernce, but no changes] -->[Very low mate value due to innate propreties & life conditions]
That's more of a "stagnant cycle".
27 Jun 2023, 5:15 am
