I miss my ex

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It’s been a long time but I think about her a lot. I could have been a better boyfriend. Since then, I’ve learned how to be. I wonder what life could’ve been like. It feels like we should be together but she moved on a long time ago. I often see her in my dreams and that doesn’t make it easy to forget about anything.

I really miss both my exes alot sometimes & my 1st was 20 years ago & my 2nd was 12 years ago. I majorly f#cked some things up but I tried to learn from things & improve to avoid repeat mistakes in future relationships. Getting in another relationship majorly helps but I still miss my exes & know I always will. I'm sure they moved on alot easier than me & never think about me if they are still alive(I haven't seen nor heard anything about them since shortly after we broke up & my 1st had some problems with drugs & alchol so I really hope they are both OK)

Thanks for the reply. Live and learn, I guess. Still, there’s something to be said about being able to forget feelings. I’m not the type to be able to. Maybe we can appreciate the time spent with those that we have loved and hope for the best in the future. It might be a good idea to watch the Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless mind. I don’t remember the movie but it was about something to do with what we are talking about, I think.

I saw that movie when it came out(I don't remember if I seen it since or not) & I kind of wished I could of had something like that done to forget about her. I wouldn't want that now thou because I'm a better person from the experience, the person I was then could not of made a relationship work with anyone. I hate that about myself but I can live with the hate a lot easier than screwing up my current relationship from repeating mistakes.

I stopped missing my ex when her sister showed up at my apartment wearing nothing but a smile and a raincoat.

I love my ex. I wouldn't say I miss him because I still see him just a little less than I used to. Sometimes it hits me harder than others but we're still really close in every way. He's going through a mental health thing. I worry about him a lot but he's starting to get a few answers. There's always hope that we can pick up where we left off.

You’re stronger than I am.

I wouldn't call it strong.
It's been really hard for both of us.

I guess it's different bc we didn't have a fight.
It wasn't about "irreconcilable differences" either.

We're still close.
We'd like to be together again, ideally.
It's always been really complicated for us because of trauma.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d-ENFoZu1L0&t=334s

I personally only miss my ex when my wife is having a meltdown. Which happens far less now than it used to. I think it's natural to think about what might have been and to some extent it's healthy, it's part of what drives personal growth.

TBH, the only way that I love somebody is if I actually miss them when they're gone for a few days. That almost never happens. It's almost as if I lack people permanence. The concept that people continue to exist when they leave my presence.