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29 Aug 2023, 5:42 pm

This is something that is new to me. I’ll just take the city bus to downtown, have a few drinks then take the bus back. There’s this one bar that I’ve gotten to like, mainly because there’s a gorgeous bartender. On weekends that bar and others in town are much more packed, mostly with college students so a lot of people kinda close to my age, at least. I’m still young enough to be able to blend in a crowd of college students.

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29 Aug 2023, 9:02 pm

Going to bars is something that aspies often have an issue with, due to sensory sensitivities. Noise etc.

If you don't have issues with going to bars, then you are lucky, as a person with autism.

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29 Aug 2023, 9:04 pm

That sounds like a great idea, if you're comfortable going. Don't feel obligated to have alcohol though.
Lots of people just have soda or water, or even a small bite to eat.

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29 Aug 2023, 9:53 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:

That sounds like a great idea, if you're comfortable going. Don't feel obligated to have alcohol though.
Lots of people just have soda or water, or even a small bite to eat.

I actually do like drinking alcohol. I’ve been trying out a variety of beers.

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29 Aug 2023, 11:26 pm

Please don’t try to approach the “gorgeous” bartender.

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30 Aug 2023, 2:30 pm

Ayyyy another fellow alcohol drinking aspie

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30 Aug 2023, 3:45 pm

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Ayyyy another fellow alcohol drinking aspie

Cheers!

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30 Aug 2023, 7:21 pm

CubsBullsBears wrote:

honeytoast wrote:

Ayyyy another fellow alcohol drinking aspie

Cheers!

What's your drink of choice?

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30 Aug 2023, 7:24 pm

blitzkrieg wrote:

Going to bars is something that aspies often have an issue with, due to sensory sensitivities. Noise etc.

If you don't have issues with going to bars, then you are lucky, as a person with autism.

I go to the local bar occasionally to have one of their speciality mixers. But I def find the lighting and noise overwhelming after a short while

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30 Aug 2023, 8:48 pm

honeytoast wrote:

CubsBullsBears wrote:

honeytoast wrote:

Ayyyy another fellow alcohol drinking aspie

Cheers!

What's your drink of choice?

idk if I have a definitive favorite. I’ve been trying some light beers like Busch Light and Coors Light.

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10 Sep 2023, 8:27 pm

This whole “going to the bars to meet people” experiment doesn’t seem to be working. Nothing ever seems to work. Instead, the status quo remains for me.

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11 Sep 2023, 11:43 pm

CubsBullsBears wrote:

This whole “going to the bars to meet people” experiment doesn’t seem to be working. Nothing ever seems to work. Instead, the status quo remains for me.

Did you end up approaching the bartender :3

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12 Sep 2023, 5:36 pm

Breaking news- I attend bars.

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12 Sep 2023, 5:39 pm

Jamesy wrote:

Breaking news- I attend bars.

No-one knew. :lol:

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12 Sep 2023, 5:57 pm

Jamesy wrote:

Breaking news- I attend bars.

I thought you went to the pub???

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12 Sep 2023, 6:00 pm

CubsBullsBears wrote:

honeytoast wrote:

CubsBullsBears wrote:

honeytoast wrote:

Ayyyy another fellow alcohol drinking aspie

Cheers!

What's your drink of choice?

idk if I have a definitive favorite. I’ve been trying some light beers like Busch Light and Coors Light.

Honestly you should be trying more local brews, Iowa has a lot of good beer. If you like, anything amber/maripan is good. Ask the bartender for recommendations. TBH, going out to a bar just to get something like a busch light is fine, but I personally wouldn't do it. You can get that beer wherever, especially all over the midwest.

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