Sometimes I just don't talk

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I'm so articulate in writing. Yet in speaking I'm so insecure. I talk slowly. I sometimes can't even answer questions. I sometimes just stay quiet. I sometimes say the wrong thing by accident. I struggle with conversations. I sometimes don't even know what to say in response. It baffled me because I know a lot. I read. I like to write. Yet when it comes to talking I don't do it in a way that people understand sometimes. I mumble as well. I don't know why it's difficult for me. It makes it hard to make friends or be in social situations..

I can seize up if I am someplace where I don't know anyone or feel uncomfortable. In workplace situations, at a couple jobs I barely said anything. For me I just had nothing in common with anyone and I could tell many of them didn't like me anyway. Sometimes I can be quite chatty if the moment strikes right but this has caused issues too(mostly in the past). Finding middle ground on this is hard.

When it comes to writing, I do a whole lot better than speaking at times.

I have the same problem. I write/type a lot better than I speak. People at work usually don't understand me when I talk, and I don't really know how to respond to them when they talk to me so I often just stay quiet and nod to show that I'm listening. There's only a couple people at work that will try to have a conversation with me, and I feel bad because those conversations don't usually go anywhere.

I'm shy to speak sometimes because I'm interpreted as a lot younger than I am but I don't think that translates as much when I write

So yeah I get that too even though it might be for different reasons

I also have a much easier time writing than speaking. I’m very shy offline which makes it hard to articulate what I want to say. I’m shy online sometimes, too, but it’s much easier. There’s more time to think than in a conversation where awkward silences are…awkward. When I was younger, I struggled with selective mutism. Now I can mostly manage surface level conversations, but I’m not usually comfortable with sharing much beyond that.

I'm sometimes shy to speak when people are talking about something I don’t know. This is why it's often a good idea to talk about things of common interest. It's good advice.

However, I might stay silent at the table or during adults’ conversation because “children should be seen and not heard,” even though no one believes in it.

I have the same issue, I try to talk just the minimum and spontaneously, if I need to think what I'll say is it a problem because in my head it's buolding all kinds of scenarios instead of getting to the point

Even when I type is it hard for me, thanks AI that helps me out a lot with this

Far better to give than recieve.... Used listening to my great advantage .......over the my entire life. Except when outta spoons .
Talking did not always serve me well .

I am also highly articulate when writing, and it is much easier for me as I can do it at my pace and not others. Conversations have always been extremely difficult for me as my brain is always going waaaaaay faster than my mouth can and I get lost in the conversation quickly. I have never been much of a talker, I was always the quiet person sitting on the couch or chair in corner watching life and never initiating or maintaining a conversation. Most of what people want to talk about I find extremely boring, ignorant, and/or completely useless and thus I have no desire to even try to fake being interested. I spend most of my time alone in my room, sometimes not seeing or speaking to anyone for hours to days when I get lost in my mind.