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03 Sep 2007, 9:18 am

If you feel a meltdown coming how do you stop it? Is there a way to stop it? Anybody know? I've had two serious meltdowns in the past two days, I don't know if its the holidays and people have been over the house a lot, or if its the fact that I haven't really slept good in 3 days, Idk! Also after my meltdown happens, my left side of my head becomes like numb, and tickaly, and the right side just hurts, and it bothers the sh*t out of me. I usually can control it pretty well, but not these two, they defintely were uncontrollable. Anybody got any ideas?



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04 Sep 2007, 6:54 pm

I don't know what your meltdowns are like. What I do when I am overwhelmed, in a panic state, feel like I'm losing it, is try to focus my mind on something. It's not always easy to do. Sometimes I try counting backwards from a high number. My determination to do this correctly makes me have to concentrate extremely hard and this focuses my mind on something other than the symptoms I am experiencing. I also pace back and forth or around my bed, which may seem awfully neurotic, but it dispels energy/anxiety and relieves the anxiety a bit. If someone that really cares about me is around I tell them and they hold me real tight, but much of the time I go berserk when everyone is sleeping and don't want to wake them up. I hope this will be of some help. I also try to see a mental picture of myself as very strong and in control. Try and breathe slowly and rhythmically from the diaphram.



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04 Sep 2007, 7:01 pm

When I'm really upset like that, I can't hold anything in. I just lose it. This can go on for anywhere from a few minutes to hours and hours. Typically someone else triggers it rather than something (I don't have sensory issues or anything).



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04 Sep 2007, 7:30 pm

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04 Sep 2007, 9:15 pm

cosmiccat wrote:
I don't know what your meltdowns are like. What I do when I am overwhelmed, in a panic state, feel like I'm losing it, is try to focus my mind on something. It's not always easy to do. Sometimes I try counting backwards from a high number. My determination to do this correctly makes me have to concentrate extremely hard and this focuses my mind on something other than the symptoms I am experiencing. I also pace back and forth or around my bed, which may seem awfully neurotic, but it dispels energy/anxiety and relieves the anxiety a bit. If someone that really cares about me is around I tell them and they hold me real tight, but much of the time I go berserk when everyone is sleeping and don't want to wake them up. I hope this will be of some help. I also try to see a mental picture of myself as very strong and in control. Try and breathe slowly and rhythmically from the diaphram.


That's how MY MELTDOWNS are

I've tried, and cannot bring myself down like that!! !! !

I usually have the cause of the meltdown standing right in front of me, or sitting behind her desk. It's all I can do to just stay put and not let my nostrils flair out!


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05 Sep 2007, 10:54 am

i usually just "go in to my own world" if i get upset or mad no one in my class dares to distrupme by then coz i freaked out once :lol: :lol: :twisted:



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06 Sep 2007, 6:41 pm

I've never been able to control them past holding them at bay for a short time. I feel it coming, and I try to hide out, and let it take it's course. There are times that I don't notice it in time, or it comes on too quick, and I end up feeling like an idiot, because I frightened everyone around me.



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06 Sep 2007, 6:45 pm

I was just thinking about starting a thread like this cause its becoming a worsening problem for me. Ive been feeling really stressed out lately too.



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06 Sep 2007, 7:48 pm

beer, or some kind of traqualizer. if those arent available just go to sleep thats usally what i do and most of the time i wake up in a better mood, i dont think meltdowns are preventable unless you have it together, wich if your gonna have a meltdown you dont :P :wink:


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07 Sep 2007, 9:57 am

myeyesseekreality wrote:
I've never been able to control them past holding them at bay for a short time. I feel it coming, and I try to hide out, and let it take it's course. There are times that I don't notice it in time, or it comes on too quick, and I end up feeling like an idiot, because I frightened everyone around me.

That sounds so familiar. The worst "breakdown" I can think of was back in 10th grade, during a lesson at 8 a.m. My teacher, who was a w****, asked me to come out in front and answer some questions. I was sleepy and didn't feel like playing trivia, so I made a mistake, and she started taunting me, making me feel like some kind of ret*d. She kept pressing me, so since I had nowhere to go - I couldn't just walk out the door, I let go. I felt like I was going to rip her head off, but instead, I started crying. After a while, almost sobbing. My colleagues kept asking me what happened, and I yelled at them to **** off. It was one of the most embarrassing moments of my life.



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07 Sep 2007, 10:48 am

What exactly is the definition of a "Meltdown" or "breakdown"?



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07 Sep 2007, 10:52 am

Not let anybody near me who will try to intimidate me, or manipulate me into something (any shouting and/or irrational statements said for the reasons mentioned above are apparently bound to trigger me off).

If it does happen and I start to cry uncontrollably, there isn't much I can do except try to find a secluded and quiet place where I can calm down. Not dwelling on what had been said to me also helps.



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07 Sep 2007, 10:53 am

Well, "nervous breakdown", which I assume is the same thing as what you call "meltdown", is basically a moment in which a person is overwhelmed by emotions and cannot think clearly, due to stress.
"Temporary insanity" is what I like to call it ;)



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07 Sep 2007, 2:10 pm

I guess I probably do that, mildly every now and then, get really freaked out every great once in a while (like when they were rearranging desks at work :-D ). Thanks for explaining it. I guess that's something I do...



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07 Sep 2007, 2:32 pm

Everyone has their own version of what a meltdown is.

I just completely lose my temper and there is absolutely nothing I can do to stop it. They usually happen for me when I have PMS &/or low blood sugar, and I can change from being OK to not-OK in a flash, & then once I have exploded I am just back to normal again, although I feel pretty shaky for a while afterwards.

It is not always an actual explosion however, sometimes it takes the form of really rigid thinking that I just have to go on & on about.

The last time this happened was a few weeks ago when I was trying to go in a shop 10 minutes before it closed & they were putting the shutters down. I was really annoyed, ducked under the closing shutter and told them they had NO RIGHT to put the shutters down ONE SINGLE SECOND before 8pm and if I wanted to enter the shop at 7.59, pick up what I wanted & pay for it by 8.00 then I should be able to do so; in a pub you had drinking-up time so in a shop you should be able to have shopping-up time etc etc etc.

I knew that I was behaving really badly even while I was yelling at them, but I just couldn't stop myself from doing it. It was like my "rational" self was watching me and going "You'll never be able to go in that shop again, you know!" but my aspie self was saying "I don't care - you've let me out & now I'm having fun!"

The most recent melt-down-type incident was on the train on the way to work the other day when there was this woman talking really loudly and clearly into her mobile phone, on & on & on even when she'd obviously achieved the purpose of her call. I tried glaring at her - no response. I mouthed "Shut UP!" at her twice - she saw me all right, but still no response.

So I got up in a rage and stormed out into the next carriage, muttering "For f**k's sake, shut UP!! !! !" under my breath and people just stared at me as if I was crazy. (I was - driven crazy by her!) Yet once I'd got settled down in a quieter place, I was fine.

The worst thing about all this is that I am perfectly well aware that my behaviour in both these (and many other) incidents was inappropriate, but I still went ahead & did it. At least neither of them were at work.....



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07 Sep 2007, 2:58 pm

So I guess my type of "meltdown" is when I get mild yet incredibly distracting headaches that stop me from doing anything? It usually happens when there's just too much going around me. I usually need to sit back and close my eyes for a time and just ignore everything that's going on until I feel better. Well, that's what happens when there's too much happening yet nothing's annoying me. When something's annoying me I get mad rather quickly. Not sure if that counts as a "meltdown" though.

Guess it's better than how others experience meltdowns 'cause I usually don't go mad. It still makes me look like a weirdo though :P



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