Can anyone identify with this?

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A stepwise decline in the ability to cope/function well within a predominantly neurotypical society, First decline = age 4. Started to become more quiet and withdrawn. Coincided with going to live in Bangkok. Where my father was posted to serve as a political officer, 2nd decline = age 8. Started at prep school. Bed wet almost every day for first couple of years, but never did so at home.Subjected to a mild to moderate level of bullying. 3rd decline= age 13. Expected to be more independent. Subjected to a high level of verbal abuse from the very start of going there. Social anxiety----------increasing depression---------psychosis. The latter from trying to please my parents by getting to uni vs the stark realisation I wouldn't be able to cope with the non academic side of being at university. In terms of being independent I was young for my age.

Academic performance gradually declined alongside that stepwise decline in coping/functioning. Very much due to moderately severe EF deficits. I was about 10 when the decline started. According to my late father my IQ at that time was very high.

It looks like the answer is NO. That stepwise decline in copying/functioning isn't typically autistic. Being very intelligent and yet having difficulty using it in real life situations ; the exception rather than the norm.

The intellectual thing, I can identify with.. Your early step downs in function and sociological things maybe directly relate to possible psyche issues, consider abuse / neglect of any kind , by peers whatever can manifest in some rather sad effects on a personal level regarding all kinds of matters Nature vs nuture thing ,, bad environment , bad expectations for outcomes.
You most likely may have been very lucky to have gotten to where you are in life. Normal those early kind of influences can have catastrophic outcomes . You have a family you have limitations but you apparently have your IQ intact .
Often people do not consider the actual mental / emotional interworkings of someone with a high IQ , I think . They ecpect them to handle everything in their lives . Not considering outcome of emotional stressors on that same mentality
Btw , once again Thank you for considering staying on this site just btw.

The trigger is either major life changes or you're missing a particular detail that had led to the decline -- do you have high alexithymia traits?

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I started off as NT and magically transformed into an Aspie over night when I was precisely 4 years and 5 months.

^ Thank you for the advice.

I don't if I ever had the ability to function alike NTs. Not since I remember.

I had to function in my own world away from the NT world. but unlike the OP I was not especially good at taking tests measuring cognitive ability.

I was at my worst when I was 10. I was going through puberty and I felt that people had very high expectations of me. I had my first brush with depression at the age of 15 and I was suicidal. I was hit in the head by a baseball at the age of 16 and I started acting and dressing like a hippie. I was so bored in the special needs college course that I was in, that I became obsessed with London and started daydreaming. I had my first major breakdown at the age of 23, the Spring of 1998. I had another one in the September of 2009 and another in the January of 2016. It was in the January of 2016 that I decided I wasn't going to please my family any more.