The Man I met on the Dating Site

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I know he is a scam artist, he working in Ukraine, he want money for his boss to sign off to get his work money, he calms it is ALOT MORE money for me & him, he works for UN General Secretary. I delete him, he keeps texting me then I blocked him, he emails me or go on Goggle Chat. Do a scammer do this? Why can he move on?

Sorry to hear that.

The odds are in his favor about getting someone to change their mind versus finding another victim to target.

You just have to be persistant in saying no. Good luck!

I learned golf to go out an meet people. I have found it to be an effective way of meeting quality people.
It takes a lot of work to be able to play golf so that is a very effective filter.

I'd bet hes also looking for other victims or currently has other victims he's trying to use or both. I'm sorry you had to deal with that scumbag Kitty. He's playing off vulnerable people's loneliness. I know it hurts but I'm proud of you for admitting it to yourself & deciding to block him. Your phone might have a setting or free app that can block calls from international numbers as well as calls that are potential scam & spam. Perhaps make a thread about that in the Computer Math Science & Tech section. I'd also suggest reporting him to the the site you met hm on if you haven't already. I'm lucky that when I did online dating I managed to avoid the scammers or they decided not to waist their time on me once they knew a tiny bit about me.

When my mother fell for a romance scam, it was similar to what Kitty experienced. I caught it early on and tried my best to stop the scam. She was mad that I had interfered with her plans. However, I had my own life to deal with, and my mother went behind my back to reconnect with the scammer. It was only stopped when she got a forged check that she cashed and the bank notified her that it was bad. In the end, she lost $15,000+.

Scammers are after the money and will often spend many hours trying to find new ways to get it out of the victims. Never underestimate what they will do if you let them. One way my mother healed from this was to watch YouTube videos of scammers getting scammed by computer experts. It is a way of passive revenge on them, even though justice was not served to her scammer.

Sorry your mother lost over $15,000. I wish this guy was real, but he not, he wanted $3,000 from me, he said it not for him. I already moved on, I'm talking to another man, I video chat with him twice

I'd be more concerned about what it is about your profile that attracts these types
(so if that sounds like victim blaming by the way)

Is there something in your profile that may need changing so these types aren't so keen on you

I've been watching a lot of vlogs on YouTube made by middle-aged or older men who've been scammed by devious women in Thailand and the Philippines. A real eye-opener.

Kitty it is FAR better & safer to meet someone in-person organically instead of on an online dating app!! !

Even though I personally know people who have had success with online dating and resulted in marriage unfortunately for people with Autism or other neuro-divergencies it is too risky because we can easily be taken advantage of due to our naivety (just ask cartoon character SpongeBob SquarePants!)

You will have the best results from seeking out other neuro-divergents in the community vs. on a dating app

This is how I found my partner David!

There's also lots of risks involved when first meeting people offline as well. There's plenty of horror stories about people who met their partners from places like work, school, events, & bars/clubs & such. Watch real life crime shows for examples in addition to a bit of stories I heard from people I personally knew. While I do agree that meeting & getting to know people offline tends to be safer overall, it's extremely important to keep in mind that bad people exist everywhere. I do think that a bit of the single & struggling members on this forum might have better luck if they sought out relationships with other neuro-divergents or people with other types of disabilities but finding them offline in person is not always realistically feasible depending on factors like the area people live. That was the case for me, I met my 3rd girlfriend on this forum & I moved to be with her after doing the long distance thing for 9 months & meeting up a few times for a week or so. Plus there are also some neuro-divergents who are very abusive. I'm not singling out any specific members on this forum but I readily admit that I became abusive towards my first girlfriend partly due to bad OCD, anxiety, & psychotic depression in addition to being immature & struggling majorly to become more independent but not making any progress. My point is that everyone needs to be very cautious when meeting others for potential relationships, especially us WP members who could be seen as an easy mark to abusers.

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My android phone can be set to only accept calls from numbers on my contact list.

I've seen that on iphones, too.

Then maybe people should just stay single and stop getting into romantic relationships/marriage?

It's too risky!! !

It makes me wonder and question how exactly you get to the point where you can trust someone enough to initiate a romantic relationship/marriage with them?

***I started a new thread about this...***

Nothing personal in my profile. I have soooooo much trouble with dating profiles.

How about your start initiating chatting with guys with humble professions, instead of going for "doctors", "officiers" or highest-ranking official in UN or US army who are having some urgent situation and in need of cash immediately - just for a change?

After encountering so many scams claiming having these high "fancy" professions (it's a VERY striking pattern in your threads - so I believe you are aiming/falling for those), I don't think you work as any of those - It's time for you to aim a tad bit "lower", Kitty.

There's nothing wrong in having a boyfriend who's a plumber or an accountant or even a librarian for instance - and it's ok if he doesn't look like Chris Evan either.

It's nothing about her profile I bet, they simply use the fishing net tactic, I am 100% sure they message many women using bots; and then go on with whoever respond to them - there's whole cyber gangs in India and Nigeria who do these stuff.

They do it with men too, sometimes as sexy female soldiers/doctors too with a sexy model-like picture.