15 Sep 2025, 8:31 pm
15 Sep 2025, 10:50 pm
You're tied both to that job that doesn't pay you enough and to the consequences of not being paid enough.
It seems like a kind of dead end.
I understand that the schedules have been compressed. In an hour, you would have had five chances to take a different bus, now you only have two.
The changing schedules also force you to not be able to change the people who ride those buses with you daily.
For example, as far as I'm concerned, seeing the schedules change is a huge inconvenience. Especially in a small town.
But also taking that bus with more or less the same people.
You're already better than me in this respect: I would find it stressful (very much so).
Scooter and bicycle: I understand, they give me similar feelings too.
If I can, I don't look anyone in the face.
The scooter makes that impossible, especially on the road.
I don't know what your problem is: the awkwardness of using a scooter or bicycle, or the stress they cause.
If I can, I only travel by car.
The problem was understanding other people's intentions (lack of Theory of Mind): I didn't understand what to do at roundabouts.
In our region, you have to be very quick at understanding other people's intentions, otherwise driving education is lacking and they either want to give way or never give way.
It took me at least a month to understand how they drive where I am now.
In my region, there are precise rules.
No one gets out of position on the road, no one takes away your right of way.
Whoever arrives later waits for the other.
That doesn't happen here.
And they never maintain a proper position on the road, their right, chaos then with scooters and new immigrants, they slalom between cars.
Driving becomes dangerous.
Biking: clumsiness.
I fell and wasn't going fast.
The locals are so used to knowing how to drive that they never make a mistake.
The others, on the other hand, are a disaster.
The bicycle option means that if you can reach your destination, it means you're not that far away; I don't know how far you have to travel.
I don't understand what's bothering you: bus schedules, yes.
Clumsiness on scooters and bicycles, I understand.
But what bothers you most when you're in those vehicles?
Because, at least for me, I tend to use strategies to make getting around less stressful.
In a car, this is easier: here, it always seems that the smartest and fastest one prevails over the others.
Others try to adapt to bad driving behavior.
Those who were once correct are no longer so.
Women used to be more cautious: now, they aren't either.
Older people do or try to do the same things: but they often make mistakes.
Younger people don't care about the rules.
Yesterday I experienced all sorts of things,
Even a car that stopped on a bike lane and prevented another car (that I was trying to let pass) from moving.
Keep in mind that here (before), those who used to ride a bike were highly respected.
Now they've all become unlikely drivers.
Solution 1, I think, is unlikely for you now: change cities.
Can you alternate some modes of transportation?
Sorry, but I'm trying to use some logic.
Another thing: eliminate that feeling of awkwardness: take a course that makes it ideal and, above all, safe; this isn't very common.
Use a helmet or glasses that make you more anonymous among people.
I wear sunglasses when I can.
A hat in the summer, like the ones tennis players use; maybe it's more aesthetically pleasing! 
A helmet with a darker visor?
Take a safe driving course.
I'll give you an example because many people don't know what to do in dangerous situations.
They get the action wrong.
We have schools that improve every skill and knowledge in mastering the vehicle you're using.
Improving this increases your confidence and social skills.
A bit like martial arts helps you gain self-confidence and improve your movement control, coordination, and many other skills.
Otherwise, your only option would be to take that bus that leaves every half hour.
26 Sep 2025, 5:56 pm
It seems like a kind of dead end. (yes, home depot; lot attendant is a dead end job, despite what home depot says about "climbing the orange ladder". yes, it is possible to get promoted to Department Supervisor, or Lead, or a department associate, but i've never seen any lot attendant promoted to Supervisor or Lead, in five years that i have been working there. (maybe they didn't apply for it. *shrug*). some jobs are dead end jobs. on the other hand, it seems like ALL the jobs in the home depot building are dead end jobs. so whatever.
I understand that the schedules have been compressed. In an hour, you would have had five chances to take a different bus, now you only have two.
The changing schedules also force you to not be able to change the people who ride those buses with you daily.
(yes, but that doesn't particularly matter to me. on the other hand, buses more crowded now. which does matter to me.)
For example, as far as I'm concerned, seeing the schedules change is a huge inconvenience. Especially in a small town.
But also taking that bus with more or less the same people.
You're already better than me in this respect: I would find it stressful (very much so).
(i find it stressful too. having a hard time adapting.)
Scooter and bicycle: I understand, they give me similar feelings too.
If I can, I don't look anyone in the face.
The scooter makes that impossible, especially on the road.
(you do not have to make prolonged eye contact, just brief.)
I don't know what your problem is: the awkwardness of using a scooter or bicycle, or the stress they cause.
been getting a lot clumsier lately, and was never that great to begin with.
a scooter won't fit in my locker @ my dumpsterfire "job". (on the other hand, maybe home depot will have the nerve to make my worthless corpse redundant b/c "at will" employer.)
If I can, I only travel by car. (i have do not have a car. there is no way i could financially afford a car, even though plenty of precious lil "people" that also earn minimum wage, drive cars.)
The problem was understanding other people's intentions (lack of Theory of Mind): I didn't understand what to do at roundabouts.
In our region, you have to be very quick at understanding other people's intentions, otherwise driving education is lacking and they either want to give way or never give way.
It took me at least a month to understand how they drive where I am now.
In my region, there are precise rules.
No one gets out of position on the road, no one takes away your right of way.
Whoever arrives later waits for the other.
That doesn't happen here.
And they never maintain a proper position on the road, their right, chaos then with scooters and new immigrants, they slalom between cars.
Driving becomes dangerous.
Biking: clumsiness.
I fell and wasn't going fast.
The locals are so used to knowing how to drive that they never make a mistake. (there are a lot of "locals" and "never" means zero. and what is a "mistake" is sometimes subjective. it is not possible for none of the locals to ever have made a mistake.)
The others, on the other hand, are a disaster.
The bicycle option means that if you can reach your destination, it means you're not that far away; I don't know how far you have to travel. (fifteen miles. not uphill or downhill. been rapidly getting much physically weaker and slower. there is no way i could bike roundtrip. on the other hand, whatever.)
I don't understand what's bothering you: bus schedules, yes.
Clumsiness on scooters and bicycles, I understand.
But what bothers you most when you're in those vehicles? (badly judging speeds and distances, anxiety, things like that.)
Because, at least for me, I tend to use strategies to make getting around less stressful.
In a car, this is easier: here, it always seems that the smartest and fastest one prevails over the others.
Others try to adapt to bad driving behavior.
Those who were once correct are no longer so.
Women used to be more cautious: now, they aren't either.
Older people do or try to do the same things: but they often make mistakes.
Younger people don't care about the rules. (there are plenty of young people. your statement a massive overgeneralization. pattern recognition vs overgeneralization.)
Yesterday I experienced all sorts of things,
Even a car that stopped on a bike lane and prevented another car (that I was trying to let pass) from moving.
Keep in mind that here (before), those who used to ride a bike were highly respected.
Now they've all become unlikely drivers.
Solution 1, I think, is unlikely for you now: change cities. (do not have enough $$ to move. besides, plenty of cities have much worse public transportation, or there's something even worse about those cities that i won't know about until after moving there.)
Can you alternate some modes of transportation? (not without extreme difficulty.)
Sorry, but I'm trying to use some logic.
Another thing: eliminate that feeling of awkwardness: take a course that makes it ideal and, above all, safe; this isn't very common.
Use a helmet or glasses that make you more anonymous among people.
I wear sunglasses when I can. (sunglasses make me wanna fall asleep, esp when i am sleep deprived, as usual.)
A hat in the summer, like the ones tennis players use; maybe it's more aesthetically pleasing!
A helmet with a darker visor?
Take a safe driving course.
I'll give you an example because many people don't know what to do in dangerous situations.
They get the action wrong.
We have schools that improve every skill and knowledge in mastering the vehicle you're using.
Improving this increases your confidence and social skills.
A bit like martial arts helps you gain self-confidence and improve your movement control, coordination, and many other skills. (took martial arts for a long time. movement control and coordination never seemed to get better, but it is not possible to measure them either.)
Otherwise, your only option would be to take that bus that leaves every half hour.
27 Sep 2025, 2:10 am
