Do I have a personality disorder as well?

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So I was thinking of my social limitations and it occurred to me that may I have a personality disorder as well. I've heard of Borderline Personality Disorder and I don't think I have that, but my aversion to social stuff seems stronger than autism. Keep in mind I'm desperately lonely but find the process of connecting with people impossible. After doing some deep thinking, I have absolutely zero personal connections. I have some buddies that live out of state that I enjoy spending time with around shared interests, but that's about as deep as it goes.

People will tell me I need to talk to people and that's just abhorrent to me. If I don't know a person, what's the point of talking to them? For me, the purpose of talking is to discuss a specific topic that both parties find interesting. That's it. Without that, there's no point of talking. That's how my brain works. If I don't know someone, I don't know if we have any shared interests so by default, I have absolutely nothing to talk to them about. I'm not shy, I'm not afraid to talk to people, it's completely different. Repulsed at the thought of talking without an appropriate subject is a better way to describe it.

In a couple of weeks, my church is having their annual picnic. I've thought of going. People in my family will suggest that I just sit at a table with other people and start talking to them. To me, that just seems like such a bad idea. I don't know anyone so how do I determine which people I want to talk to? Generally, people will be talking about something already, more than likely, it's something I'm not interested in so I would either have to put up with that or try to change the subject which would be rude.

Some people say that makes me a selfish person if I don't care or am interested in what's going on with other people. I can't help that. I obviously don't want harm or anything bad to happen to people, but if I don't know them, I can honestly say I don't care about them. They have to demonstrate something to inspire me to be interested in them before I'd want to engage with them. People will suggest asking them where they work. My first thought is why would I want to know that? More than likely, I'll never speak or interact with this person again so I've spent time and energy asking about something that is completely meaningless to me with irrelevant information.

I hope this doesn't make me sound like a bad person. Just being completely honest. It's how my brain works or doesn't work. Does this line up with any kind of personality disorder?