Yet ANOTHER argument with my brother about marriage...

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04 Oct 2025, 9:13 pm

I'm so SICK of this crap!! !

My mom's dementia is getting worse but my brother refuses to accept the truth!

This led to yet ANOTHER fight about me and David getting married

If my mom's dementia is truly progressing then I must continue with the marriage plans even if it upsets my brother!!

How do I make him understand that?

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04 Oct 2025, 11:45 pm

I'm a bit confused Why does your mom's dementia getting worse mean you must continue with your marriage plans :?:

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05 Oct 2025, 2:06 am

nick007 wrote:

I'm a bit confused

Why does your mom's dementia getting worse mean you must continue with your marriage plans :?:

Because I don't know if she will survive until wedding day!! !

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05 Oct 2025, 2:41 am

Yeah what's with your brother? Make sure your mum is left with happy memories of your wedding.

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05 Oct 2025, 3:07 am

What exactly is your brothers issue with it?

I think you said before you live with your brother and maybe he depends on you a little bit. So is he emotionally immature? or is he intellectually disabled? or both or just used to being room-mate with you, and if he does depend on you some...what happens when you're married?

LIke,is he living with you, and worried if you get married you'll kick him out right away and he'll have nowhere to go? And I mean I sure hope that isn't the plan if he's been living with you so far as he'd need time and maybe even some help to find another living situation like things aren't easy for anyone with the current administratation. so I'd hope you could try reassuring him that it will be a change but your not just going to throw him out onto the street with a suitcase. Or does he just dislike your boyfriend, and is being an a**hole?

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05 Oct 2025, 6:46 am

Mikurotoro92 wrote:

nick007 wrote:

I'm a bit confused

Why does your mom's dementia getting worse mean you must continue with your marriage plans :?:

Because I don't know if she will survive until wedding day!! !

I thought it might be something like that. I'm gonna sound like a downer here & say that I do not think that's a good reason to rush a wedding, especially when you keep stating that marriage is voluntary impresenment. I think it would be be better to delay the wedding & spend more time with your mom & brother as a family & getting family affairs in order.

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05 Oct 2025, 5:25 pm

^He just has to get to the point of understanding that eventually I will have to move on and create my own life!! !

My neighbor and friend Glenn told me at church Fellowship Hall today that he believes that marriage will set me free from imprisonment with my brother

Honestly, he might be right...

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06 Oct 2025, 1:00 am

are you using marriage as a form of escape?

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06 Oct 2025, 1:55 am

^partially but I also truly love David! !!

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06 Oct 2025, 2:00 am

You want to wed before your mother is too far gone to comprehend it. In my opinion, this a terrible reason to rush a marriage. Marriage is (supposed to be) for life. You marry him just before your mother is totally gone, but she'll lose it soon thereafter. She's not going to be "around" or "aware" for most of your nuptials, so rushing it "just before" is silly,

I'm with your brother on this. Listen to him.

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06 Oct 2025, 6:22 am

ezbzbfcg2 wrote:

Well, yeah I want to give her something to remember

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04 Nov 2025, 11:15 am

You can legally get married, in court. Just do the ceremony another time. Why do things 1, 2, 3 when you can do 3, 1, 2

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