dwelling on the past

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can't forgive self or anyone else

numb, pathetic, misunderstood, disgruntled, frustrated, angry, overreacting

Flashbacks are an everyday thing for me. I am a bad grudge holder too.

WELCOME TO World of triggers and perhaps ? some mild degree of PTSD?
famous quote by Unknown: Everything that happened today is now Past. All that Happens tomarrow is the future .,
It is your choice , Look forward to tomarrow,possible better future ..? or be held back by dwelling on thoughts of past?

Best to Forgive yourself and anyone else, keep the experience for reference and best try to move on.
Sorry your feeling that way Shortfatbald..hope it passes soon.

I used to spend a lot of time dwelling on my past. If only I did this thinking. I realized that it's not the way to live and to let go of the things that I've done.

I normally dwell on missed opportunities. Opportunities can be harder to catch in real time when you are on the spectrum.

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I agree with what you write.
Think about the present and not the past.

In reality, the past doesn't exist: they're memories if we refer to everyday things, not historical ones or wars or the like.
But normal things.
The present doesn't even exist: if a tenth of a second passes, it's the past.
If something exists, it's only the future, which doesn't involve very short timescales, but will happen, and we won't know its dynamics in advance; in some cases, we can only hypothesize or even calculate them in detail (for example, an asteroid impact under conditions we can know).
Every time I do something on different days, even if it always seems the same, it's different, and everything is always different because everything changes.

Not even reality exists: it depends on the perspective from which you observe it.
And it's different for each of us, even if we live the exact same experience.

I understand what you're writing.
But I always tend to think about things and people.

If I miss an opportunity, I focus on why it happened, not just regretting it.

Then I know another one will come along, and so on over time.

But if I don't correct what prevented me from seizing it, I'll fall back into the same exact pattern over and over again.

An Italian soccer player had already torn knee ligaments twice before starting to play in the top division.
(Paolo Rossi between the ages of 16 and 18)
He got treatment and then resumed playing.

He was about 180 cm tall.
Being a center forward, that's all.

But he said: knowing full well that I won't be able to compete physically with the defenders, my mind thinks a few tenths of a second before the others, and I'll be there, where no one expects me, and I'll score at an impressive speed.

He won the ranking three times, was the Ballon d'Or winner by winning a World Cup with the highest number of goals, lost the previous one, but still scored three goals.

So it depends: if you're not good at one thing, you can be good at others.

I was slow in sprint races.
But in long races, I caught up with almost everyone.

I trained to succeed.
The others thought other qualities were enough.
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Anyway, yes, you're right. I also missed that a new way of evaluating things would make it effective.

We're like we're out of time: or so far ahead of time that we're misunderstood.

Rossi was before my time but I've heard of him for sure! Italian football was very popular in England when I was a child in the 90's. I would watch every week! Beppe Signori, Maldini, Sachi. Baggio, Del Piero etc

The opportunities I missed won't be coming back but maybe there will be new ones one day! Most of my opportunities to interact with others are on the WWW these days. The missed opportunities I remember were real life ones.

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In the history of Italian football champions, there was a time long before Rossi.
I mentioned him because, like a flash (a cartoon character), he was able to mentally and physically anticipate every opponent by thinking extremely quickly about offensive play. He could turn defensive plays into offensive ones in a small area of ​​the pitch, exploiting the opponent's comfort zone in a deadly offensive move, and even in creating goals.
He did this because, having suffered two very serious injuries as a youngster, he had also lost some of his brilliance. Imagine how his reflexes would have responded if he hadn't also had previous deficits.
The other champions you mention are some of the exceptions.
Others aren't even known, like Igor Protti, Inzaghi, yes, and others, even if they were recent: there were so many that a good 70% of them never made it to major teams, or if they were exceptional like Luigi Riva, the list is very long.
In those eras you described, there were a myriad of excellent footballers.
What gets lost in memory are the players who came before them.
In the 1930s, there were two World Cups won, followed by an interlude of players drawn from Italian universities, amateurs, who nevertheless won the 1936 Olympics. Consider the 1934 World Cup, the 1936 Olympics, and the 1938 World Cup won in succession: the Pelé of that era was a forgotten Giuseppe Meazza, the Pelé of the 1930s, but also Silvio Piola, who was also deadly.

Then the war and a great team lost in flight in the Superga tragedy of the great Torino of Valentino Mazzola, pre-1950s.
Imagine five consecutive Scudetti interrupted only by a plane crash.

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Paolo Rossi, I think, was the fastest center forward I've ever seen, and he had the physique of an accountant (i.e., he was small).

Superflash Igor Protti

Thanks for the videos! I've heard of Mazzola. I think I read about him in a book or article. There is a football journalist in the UK who knows a lot about the history of the game! He's called Jonathan Wilson.


Italian football is a really interesting special interest.

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Thanks for the videos! I've heard of Mazzola. I think I read about him in a book or article. There is a football journalist in the UK who knows a lot about the history of the game! He's called Jonathan Wilson.


Italian football is a really interesting special interest.[/quote]


Grazie a te!
Many Italian teams were founded by British players, and some by Swiss players.

This guy is the most powerful shot-stopper,

Thunderclap.
In 1970, he finished second in the World Cup.
He was an exceptional person: he was never afraid, and possessed the qualities of honesty and courage.
His opponents broke his leg twice.
After months, he would meet up with them again, accept their apologies, and shake hands.
The British and German teams liked him a lot.

With his powerful and lightning-fast left leg, Riva could unleash shots that could reach speeds of 120-130 km/h, a veritable "cannon" or "bomb" that terrified goalkeepers and made him a prolific scorer and top scorer in Serie A.

After the World Cup match against Germany, Italy won 4-3.

The match was played before the current penalty shootout.

Outside the stadium, there is a plaque commemorating that match.

Up until 1973, we had only won two World Cups and one Olympics in football.

It was the first time we beat England.

Really strange.

Friendly matches don't matter to us.

Only those related to World Cups or major competitions.

Unfortunately, England didn't participate much.

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