Feel I'm surrounded by people who feel like already "old"

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I'm finding very hard to enjoy being a 30+ year old when it seems like some other people even of that age seemingly act like they are already "old". Despite other people and the internet telling me I'm not alone in my situation or being single, living with parents, unmarried and no children and so on, I do struggle to come to terms with that fact and keep it in my head but I still get feelings of being the only one left and everyone has got paired off by now and it won't go away.

Given that only around 50% of both men and women are married, it's statistically impossible for you to be "the only one". Half the population isn't "paired off". If everyone is already paired off, who's using dating sites?

Also in this economy, lots of people still live with family / parents.

Of all of the friends I have, only a small portion of them are married, or have ever been married. This includes people in their 30s, 40s, and 50s.

Given the choice between believing something extremely negative like being the only person in your situation, and believing something more positive like your situation is actually pretty normal and common, why would you choose to believe the negative one? What exactly makes it so difficult to believe that you might not actually be the only one with that experience? It's like you're fighting to keep believing the things that make you sad, despite everyone telling you they're not true, for basically no reason.

Also, not everyone ages the same way. Some people are already kinda "old" at 30. Some people don't get "old" till their 40s or 50s or even later.

Everybody grows old,
The trick is to never grow up and to grow old disgracefully.

Death before Senectitude !