22 Oct 2025, 4:50 pm
I'm wondering if anyone on WP has had the experience where someone, an NT, got enraged or incensed at them for insinuating that they were being dishonest / deceitful / trying to pull a fast one / etc.?
It's happened to me on more than one occasion, but not recently. Thank gawd I got more fluent in implied meanings that I could process in my brain in more real-time, which is what I struggled with in my 20s. 
And yes, it's those pesky implied meanings that trip us up...since we have clinical difficulty intuiting those in real-time, so when someone gets all indignant at us for "insulting their integrity" or what-have-you, we have to ask questions (which are usually rebuffed as "ah don't give me THAT") OR we catch the nuance just a second or two too late, and have to go into damage control and explain that's not what we really meant but we can see how it might've been taken that way (just to acknowledge the other person's perspective).
Granted, sometimes the power dynamic (and options) don't allow for the other side to express indignation...like if it's salespeople who are just being somewhat obnoxious, for instance.
I'll admit there have been times when I intentionally accused someone of deception, but I had pretty good evidence or I could spot contradictions in facts vs. what they were telling me. In a few of those cases, however, I was dealing with someone who was a narcissistic socio/psychopath, so the response was just rage and "HOW DARE YOU". The only strategy in dealing with such "people" is avoidance, AFAIC.
Final thought: sometimes, there may have been instances were the other side DID get indignant in some way, but they just weren't vocal about it...like if we made some (unintended) insinuation of deception on the other person's part, their face might be "saying it" (angry expression, or WTF face) - which of course in true Aspie fashion would tend to go over our heads 
