I have reason to suspect CHILD ABUSE with my neighbor...

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30 Oct 2025, 7:21 pm

Jessica!! !

This is based on the way she treats her own son Rico by constantly yelling at him to the point of making the kid cry!

She is absolutely HORRIBLE and even mistreated her mom in the past

What should I do?!?

Should I intervene or wait for more evidence?



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01 Nov 2025, 9:00 am

It is not uncommon for some people to have little emotional regulation in their lives. As a result, they take their frustrations out on the people around them. If you intervene, you will likely become a target of those frustrations.

In these sort of situations the person who is blasting others is the one least likely to see themselves as needing to change. Child protective services might not be able to do much without physical evidence. You could be a friend to the child and slowly help them to see the blasts they get will only be until they can start life on their own.



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01 Nov 2025, 9:43 am

Fear I must agree with timf, And all you can do ,is really hope it doesnt become too late before CPS gets involved.
Not all families function the same way, some maybe dysfunctional, some maynot all the time ,or ? Try not to dwell on it, but you might be able to provide a supportive ear.When needed . or if worse, then you might observe and report what you see, Its about all , they allow us overhere to do ,in such situations . Legally. Take care you , living around that stuff can be tough.


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01 Nov 2025, 7:35 pm

Well, hopefully we will be moving out of here by next year so this will no longer be an issue for us!! !



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01 Nov 2025, 9:01 pm

Right on,,Facts are alwways better than suspicions in most cases ...perhaps best wishes, on your new place...
Has been reccomended to me,that when home hunting, maybe spend a day hanging around your new . possible home .
On a weekend night Friday and Saturday , to see how Rowdy the neighbours might be. If your really nice to local cop , they maybe willing to offer an opinion about the neighbourhood ? Best Wishes either way. :D


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01 Nov 2025, 9:04 pm

Jakki wrote:
Right on,,Facts are alwways better than suspicions in most cases ...perhaps best wishes, on your new place...
Has been reccomended to me,that when home hunting, maybe spend a day hanging around your new . possible home .
On a weekend night Friday and Saturday , to see how Rowdy the neighbours might be. If your really nice to local cop , they maybe willing to offer an opinion about the neighbourhood ? Best Wishes either way. :D


Thank you!! !

Either my brother and I will move to an apartment in the next year or I will move to David's group home after I get married!



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01 Nov 2025, 9:06 pm

I should have also mentioned that Jessica has a disability

Autism I think?



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01 Nov 2025, 9:42 pm

Hopefully someday ,someway Jessica might seek out help ? Am thinking you probably already know how Autistic people may have a low stress threshold,if she is autistic .And is raising kid/ kids . Might not have alot , in the way of extra spoons? . ?? just saying .


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01 Nov 2025, 10:19 pm

A few years ago, somebody who lived in an apartment complex in a big city told about how it sounded like his next door neighbor was sexually assaulting his own daughter on a regular basis who was apparently something like 12 or 13. The neighbor's girlfriend didn't care at all.

So the guy called the police to report it and the police said that just hearing it through the walls was not enough for them to investigate. Apparently, they felt that there was likely some other explanation.



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03 Nov 2025, 8:54 pm

Now I just overheard Jessica coldly say to Rico:

"You're done, go inside!! !"

How could she treat her OWN SON LIKE DISPOSABLE GARBAGE?!?



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03 Nov 2025, 11:27 pm

Maybe she has control issues ? It hurts to hear people treat there kids like that .


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04 Nov 2025, 1:49 am

Jakki wrote:
Maybe she has control issues ? It hurts to hear people treat there kids like that .


Then do you agree this is abuse?



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04 Nov 2025, 2:11 am

Quick question - how many of y'all have actually had or raised or cared for kids of your own?

Sometimes kids will cry. Their reasons for crying will not always be rational, sensible, or logical. That's part of having kids. Kids will cry for being told "no", even when "no" is the correct and only sensible answer. Being calm and rational and reasonable will not stop kids from crying, or even throwing a tantrum, for simply not getting their way.

Being stern, or even raising one's voice, is part of being a parent. Kids do not always listen, and sometimes yelling at them is the only way to get them to realize it's serious business, and that the behavior is not acceptable.

Telling a kid that "you're done, go inside" is not treating one's child like "disposable garbage". It's being firm with boundaries, and demonstrating a hard limit of acceptable behavior. Seems a bit dramatic to leap from the statement to the conclusion.

Doesn't seem like abuse to me - seems like parenting.

It's literally a parent's job to control their kids, teach them boundaries, and administer consequences. Consequences are supposed to be unpleasant, to make the boundary meaningful.



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04 Nov 2025, 2:45 am

Yeah or she might be struggling with being a mother


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04 Nov 2025, 2:58 am

^Now I am beginning to question MY desire of becoming a mother...



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04 Nov 2025, 3:08 am

uncommondenominator wrote:
Quick question - how many of y'all have actually had or raised or cared for kids of your own?

Sometimes kids will cry. Their reasons for crying will not always be rational, sensible, or logical. That's part of having kids. Kids will cry for being told "no", even when "no" is the correct and only sensible answer. Being calm and rational and reasonable will not stop kids from crying, or even throwing a tantrum, for simply not getting their way.

Being stern, or even raising one's voice, is part of being a parent. Kids do not always listen, and sometimes yelling at them is the only way to get them to realize it's serious business, and that the behavior is not acceptable.

Telling a kid that "you're done, go inside" is not treating one's child like "disposable garbage". It's being firm with boundaries, and demonstrating a hard limit of acceptable behavior. Seems a bit dramatic to leap from the statement to the conclusion.

Doesn't seem like abuse to me - seems like parenting.

It's literally a parent's job to control their kids, teach them boundaries, and administer consequences. Consequences are supposed to be unpleasant, to make the boundary meaningful.


I do NOT have kids of my own but my fiance David is trying to change that!! !

Also, I tried the whole "pregnancy" thing and it failed so my body might have been saying:

"Hit the brakes!!"
"You aren't ready to become a mom!"

Yeah I understand that parents are supposed to be strict and harsh with their children but something about how Jessica yells at Rico rubs me the wrong way!

It just feels strange...