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07 Nov 2025, 4:20 pm

Hi, I just subscribed to this forum following advice from several helplines I've spoken to.
I'm 29, I live in the UK and I was diagnosed with autism 3 years ago. Since then my life has only been going downhill. Last year I was homeless but now I'm living in supported housing. I stopped working in may and been living on benefits since then because my depression got a lot worse and now I can barely get out of bed without a few drinks.

I've been looking for help for almost 9 years because of depression/anxiety/loneliness etc. and the only thing I got out of this was this diagnosis. I haven't received any more help from NHS and right now, the secondary healthcare service (a psychiatrist) is actively rejecting all the referrals from my GP.

Everything started when I was 20 years old and I started realising that I was struggling with intimate relationships, especially the lack of thereof. I've always been very shy and I always hated it but the nightmare only really started when I got to my 20s. My life has been a hell since then, and the past 9 years might as well never have happened and I wouldn't even realise it.

I can't see anyway I can't get out it and I think about death every day.

I don't know what I'm hoping to obtain from this forum, unfortunately knowing that I'm not on my own in these struggles doesn't make me feel any better. I'm only here because the person in the suicide helpline suggested it.

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07 Nov 2025, 4:45 pm

I'm glad they recommended joining from the hotline. I hope (somehow) things improve for you - stay strong and stick around (both the forum and in real life). Feel free to vent away if that helps you.

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07 Nov 2025, 5:59 pm

Welcome!
You may want to try meeting people through a special interest.

It is very hard to get help when you have autism as it is too hard for a normal person to understand.
The label is essentially meaningless.

Where I live, in Connecticut, mental health services pretty much stop when you turn 18.

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07 Nov 2025, 6:06 pm

Welcome to WP. I hope it helps you feel better (at least a little).

And, yes, being Autistic in a world of so-called "normal" folk can be a strain. I like to think that life is a journey and just because I'm sometimes in a bad place doesn't mean things won't eventually improve. That is, I see benefit from keep-on-going.

(Unfortunately, patience/persistence might be required. Getting to "improvement" might take some time.)

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07 Nov 2025, 8:07 pm

Hi and Welcome. Scorched....think I may be able to relate to some of what you write about ? please hang in there.
Not a bad site here , not always terribly responsive? ,but in Using computer terms, it seems you maybe at a very difficult point
for yourself ? Sorry , a "Hard Reset" maybe in order .Sorry to know of your circumstance .but be Welcome here
Good Luck in the future. Congradulations on your Diagnosis finally. Learning of neurological differences between yourself and others can be difficult , I think or for others it can be a relief , a light bulb turning on point in life . Please help your brain/ mind, become your friend possibly, because in my experience : It is easy for it to become a worst enemy.

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