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Longtime lurker, first time poster/actually making an account lol
I have no idea if this is the right place to put this but I thought someone here might have some advice.
I've thought I had no issues getting my haircut for years now, comparatively my brother (also autistic) was so adverse to them we had to cut his hair while he slept when he was a lot younger. I've since realised not having an issue with scissors near my ears is not the same thing as not having an issue with haircuts in general. I can't think of a single haircut I've ever had in the past ten years where I haven't had some sort of meltdown/otherwise adverse reaction to it once it's on my head. I mean real muscle clenched, teeth bared, pulling at my hair level reactions. My last haircut was January of 2023 and it was so so so so bad I basically swore off them. It had thinned earflaps, for crying out loud. There was a hole in my fringe!
Anyway. This is all to say I have a haircut booked for tomorrow. It's reached a length where the weight of it pulls the hair on my scalp down and makes it really flat at the top. I think a fringe would keep me warm in winter too lol. Going for that long hair/short fringe look. Found a cool hairdressers in town, semi-cyberstalked the stylist before booking her, saw someone I kind of know getting her hair done by her posted to their account and she always looks cool so I feel like that's enough for me. But I feel a rumbling sense of unease just below the surface, one I can't quite reach yet... I know I'm winding myself up but eek help. How to self soothe spooked horse levels of nervousness around haircuts? Is it worthwhile letting her know I'm autistic? They do "silent sessions" where you can request they don't talk to you but the talking part is never really the issue. At least that means they're probably open to me being A Bit Odd?
It's mid-late afternoon so I thought i might catch a film before I go since there's a cinema near by. Kind of ipad baby myself into a sense of ease. Nothing bad could happen...... robot Elle Fannings would never let you get a bad haircut... Does anyone have any tips on getting better with physical change?

Good luck.

I haven't had a haircut since 2018. I didn't mind having it cut but it was too much work to find someone to cut it after the person who cut it retired.

Thank you!
It went quite well actually, the first one I've had in a long time where I'm more OK with it than not lol. I feel like it makes me fit in a bit more with my age group, people are talking to me like I'm a peer. I feel like Pinochio
I got this whole talk about how I'm meant to be drying + styling it and only use a certain kind of brush but I tried drying it the way they said on my own and it took over an hour T______T...... my arms started to hurt.
Do you ever cut yours yourself? I used to do quick trims when I had it really short but I wouldn't really know where to go when cutting my own fringe/layers

I just trim off the ends and let it grow down to the middle of my back.
I usually put it in a ponytail to keep it out of zippers. Sometimes I'll wear pigtails.

I like the experience of getting my hair cut, it feels nice and relaxing. But I get very nervous about them doing what I ask because imperfections in the final result ruin my week. And some hairdressers don't listen and put their own spin on things.
I haven't had my hair cut since 2018 because I'm growing it as long as I can and really like how it looks. One day I'll get it cut again whenever I get bored of the length.

My last haircut was 1999 for my first real job interview (didn't work out)
While still male, if it got too long I'd just trim it down to crew cut... or just everything off. Drying was easy...

I now trim a bit.
I sort of dream a bit of having my hair colored, tried colored shampoo but hair too dark...
Or get a hair stylist proper advice... But remember when I asked way back for 'something different', regular hairdresser just did what he always did since I was 5... (see above)
I have no idea how to go about this... I don't like to talk to people, I can't explain what I want and afraid to 'sit back and let it happen'... I am 50+ and afraid of getting my hair cut...
When I started going female, took make up class... "can we touch you"... Answered no of course... dammit... Bad habbit...

I just started shaving my head down to the skin once I got a SEVERE case of folliculitis. Liked the way it felt and looked and have been bald ever since.

I get my hair cut about every two or three months. I find it a pain, but it's necessary since I very thick hair that grows in every direction and my bangs are always the first to get too long now matter how my hair is cut, and I don't want to look like a sheepdog.

I haven't gotten my hair cut in a while due to the fact that I have phobia of being touched.

I've been cutting my own hair for years. If your hair is long enough it's very easy to do. There are many instructions and videos online on how to cut your own hair.

I actually loved getting haircuts, but I couldn't justify the cost once I learned to do it myself. Maybe one day when I'm old and don't keep long hair any more I'll go for regular haircuts again.