Should I be careful not to take make this same mistake again

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A few months ago I told this woman who I met in London and we were having a nice chat on WhatsApp that I ‘Volunteer for cancer research” when she asked what I did for work. Consequently she then stopped talking to me on WhatsApp.


My friends advised me that instead of saying I ‘volunteer’ what I should have said is ‘I WORK’ for cancer research. Do you think my friends advice is right in case I make the same mistake again

I dont think you should lie if you dont earn money from Cancer Research.

Social rules aren't that precise. What sort of people do you hang around with?

Be aware that her motive may well have been something else entirely.

If she or any other woman stop talking to you because they find out such things like that you are not rich or have a paying job she's not right for you any way. Good ridderance, I'd say.

If you volunteer and don’t get paid you should not lie. However if you have means of income (which is what neurotypical ppl usually mean when they ask), say what you do to bring income. Idk why most don’t just say “how do you make money as an adult”

I think that you should be honest and say that you volunteer. If your future girlfriend can't accept that, she's not worth your time.

If you do lie James, she'll find out after your together for a bit & she'll break up with you. Lying about being unemployed might help you get a relationship but it's extremely likely that relationship will end quickly.

I'm not gonna judge the character of the woman for rejecting James. The economy has been going down the toilet since the 90s ended & more & more households & familes require both partners to have full-time jobs.

not a mistake, you dodged at least a gold digger lite. Do you want someone who's with you for the stuff you have?

good thing you didn't have a paid job in that sense

There is not enough info to determine if she was wanting a guy with a bit of money to help support her or not. She may have been worried about James being interested in her for her money since he does not have a job. She may just want a partner who can cover his own financial expenses instead of relying on her to buy his beer & such when they go out on dates. Considering that women tend to be paid less than men, it makes sense for a woman to want a guy who can pull his own financial weight.

One of my mates told me on whatsapp that the girl thought i was "cute"

Hope you have a nice Christmas Jamesy