Profound mind blindness

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I just saw the movie Adam and especially noticed a scene in which the title character explains that he is wholly incapable of discerning another person's thoughts or feelings. I don't think an autistic person need necessarily be profoundly "mind blind" in that way, furthermore I believe that over time one can acquire the ability through experience e.g. by my 60s my ability to understand others in that way was probably equivalent to that of some socially adept teenagers. Which isn't the same thing as empathy or lack thereof, which deals with the next level so to speak.

I offer this poll to see how different people here rate themselves on mind blindness or its opposite, thanks!

I don't have mindblindness.

Well I can't read people's minds, so yes?

Low.

But that's because I genuinely am not trying at all.
Because I'm too busy fighting something else; sensory and mental or whatever to think about body language of others, too dysregulated to bother learning what everyone else feels and thinks.

I believe I can actually cultivate it as a skill if I can constantly pay attention and have attained enough data for it, better if I don't have any crap to cope, giving me an actual room to finally pay attention outside of my very loud body and mind and feelings.

Else, I really, really do not care. Now I'm at a state of less fighting internal crap, the thought of learning and cultivating this particular cognitive domain doesn't enter my mind.
It doesn't happen automatically or naturally for that matter; but then that's the nature of autism.

Whether if I'm actually good at it or not during any process, I wouldn't actually know it yet.

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I never really thought about the term Mind Blind before but my vote is for Profoundly. I tend to zone out & daydream instead of paying much attention to others around me so I tend to not have enough info to really gauge what they are thinking or feeling. About the only way I think I might could make a somewhat accurate guess is if I know the person some & have an idea of what's currently going on with them. I tend to not process the hints NT do like facial expressions. NTs tend to misread me & assume I'm upset when I'm not or that I'm amused by something distressing that they're dealing with or something embarrassing they did when I barely even noticed what happened.

I feel that I have a somewhat good sense of what many other people might be thinking, that I've developed through years of experience dealing with others. But it's possible that it's me deceiving myself and I am way off in my guess.

To be honest, it feels a little bit like an invasion of their privacy to guess what's in their head. If they really want me to know what they're thinking, then I think they would tell me. I get kind of annoyed when people think they know my motivations for doing things, and think they're often wrong in what they assume.

Being off daydreaming in my head about interesting things is my happiest state of being, and I'm also rarely daydreaming about what other people are doing or thinking.