Growing older when you have never been in a relationship

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BrianWV38
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08 Jan 2026, 11:36 am

I will keep this post fairly brief. I just wanted to say growing older hits differently when you have never been in a relationship before. I am only 38 but I have had issues with my left knee for many years. Today is not a good day for my left knee. It kind of sucks right now.

But the truth remains I am getting older. I have been balding for a decade and a half and when I was younger, I had horrific back issues. Getting older and your body having issues is inevitable. It is a part of life none of us can avoid. I just hoped I had been in a relationship or two before all this.

I am not looking forward to explaining to my first girlfriend ever why I cannot go on a walk right now because my left knee is killing me. I never imagined I would have to have these sorts of conversations in the early days of my first relationship ever.



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20 Jan 2026, 4:45 pm

it is a better match if you can find somebody else who also has issues they have to deal with.



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24 Jan 2026, 11:05 pm

I wouldn't beat yourself up about being single up until now. It seems like most young men in their 20's and 30's are single these days.



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26 Jan 2026, 12:07 am

I just turned 30 and have never dated. I do not even remember the last time I found a woman attractive. Either way, it would be pointless now because A- i would be expected to know everything about kissing and s3x and B- most people my age have or want kids.



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18 Feb 2026, 5:41 pm

I am realizing how depressed I am over having never been in a relationship before. Major depression setting in. I know the feeling. I have been to many years of therapy. I wish it helped.



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18 Feb 2026, 9:13 pm

BrianWV38 wrote:
I am realizing how depressed I am over having never been in a relationship before. Major depression setting in. I know the feeling. I have been to many years of therapy. I wish it helped.


I'm sorry to hear that Brian, hang in there man.



BrianWV38
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20 Feb 2026, 1:40 pm

Thank you, today is another tough day, but I am hanging in there.