How to respond to being called "so hot and out of league?"

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AroDweeb64
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05 Feb 2026, 3:36 pm

Im bored so I decided to install tinder as I heard other asexuals have had success with it.

I recently matched with a girl that is a bit younger than me (22 and I am 30). Her first line was "you are so f*****g hot and out of my league" and I am a little surprised. I have never had that adjective used to describe me (just the word "cute" every so often) and I have definitely never been considered out of anyone's league. I know this is a legitimate person and not some Chinese or Mexican scammer, so I am just wondering how to approach it. Especially since I am a guy who is only 5'6 and on the fat side LOL.(i dont do body pics but I dont really hide it...can be seen in my face)

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05 Feb 2026, 4:38 pm

I'd usually be on the other end of that line.

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05 Feb 2026, 5:22 pm

AroDweeb64 wrote:

I am a guy who is only 5'6 and on the fat side LOL.

AroDweeb64 wrote:

Her first line was "you are so f*****g hot and out of my league"

Spidey senses tingling.

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05 Feb 2026, 5:45 pm

AroDweeb64 wrote:

Im bored so I decided to install tinder as I heard other asexuals have had success with it.

If you are asexual, why are you interested in Tinder?

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05 Feb 2026, 6:29 pm

That line makes me think she is not asexual. There could potentially be some major incompatibility if your asexual & she's not.

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05 Feb 2026, 6:30 pm

nick007 wrote:

That line makes me think she is not asexual. There could potentially be some major incompatibility if your asexual & she's not.

I thought Tinder was mostly for hookups.

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05 Feb 2026, 8:22 pm

^I understand your confusion. I never used Tinder but I think... Tinder was designed to be a hookup site but some members developed long-term relationships from there. As the site got more established & well known & popular, more members started going there seeking relationships instead of only using it for hookups.

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05 Feb 2026, 9:13 pm

cyberdora wrote:

AroDweeb64 wrote:

I am a guy who is only 5'6 and on the fat side LOL.

AroDweeb64 wrote:

Her first line was "you are so f*****g hot and out of my league"

Spidey senses tingling.

Normally, mines would be too. But they're white and definitely not Trans.

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06 Feb 2026, 12:53 am

AroDweeb64 wrote:

cyberdora wrote:

AroDweeb64 wrote:

I am a guy who is only 5'6 and on the fat side LOL.

AroDweeb64 wrote:

Her first line was "you are so f*****g hot and out of my league"

Spidey senses tingling.

Normally, mines would be too. But they're white and definitely not Trans.

On a scale of 1-10?

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06 Feb 2026, 5:28 pm

Probably intends to take advantage.

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06 Feb 2026, 6:48 pm

nick007 wrote:

Thanks for the information. I have a partner and won't be using it any time soon, hopefully.

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06 Feb 2026, 6:50 pm

AroDweeb64 wrote:

cyberdora wrote:

AroDweeb64 wrote:

I am a guy who is only 5'6 and on the fat side LOL.

AroDweeb64 wrote:

Her first line was "you are so f*****g hot and out of my league"

Spidey senses tingling.

Normally, mines would be too. But they're white and definitely not Trans.

I suspect he is questioning your authenticity.

AroDweeb64
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07 Feb 2026, 10:45 pm

MaxE wrote:

Probably intends to take advantage.

Ain't that the truth? Seems like that's all women want to do these days. I kind of just ignored her and will probably unmatch.

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