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TheGoldenAfternoonWhiteRabbit
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10 Feb 2026, 12:00 am

Finding words to say in a conversation is challenging. I am an introvert. My relative said that in conversations people like to talk about themselves. When I've asked a coworker in a conversation what their hobbies are, they got bored in the conversation. I've learned in this conversation that I didn't do anything wrong with asking what their hobbies are. It's timing I believe. There are times when people are meant to connect in a conversation and when they're not to meant to connect in a conversation.



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10 Feb 2026, 12:18 am

Is your issue with word recall or choosing the correct words to use in a conversation?



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10 Feb 2026, 12:24 pm

I always feel guilty when talking about myself in a conversation in case it makes me come across as self-absorbed or something.

The male and female NTs at my workplace talk about things like work, journeys, pets, families, politics, shopping, food, gossip, music, movies, stuff like that. None of the sports obsession that autistics stereotype NTs with. I find people very seldom talk about sports.


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10 Feb 2026, 12:28 pm

TheGoldenAfternoonWhiteRabbit wrote:
Finding words to say in a conversation is challenging. I am an introvert. My relative said that in conversations people like to talk about themselves. When I've asked a coworker in a conversation what their hobbies are, they got bored in the conversation. I've learned in this conversation that I didn't do anything wrong with asking what their hobbies are. It's timing I believe. There are times when people are meant to connect in a conversation and when they're not to meant to connect in a conversation.


I agree strongly with the underlined.

It's not always about what one tries to discuss, sometimes there's other factors.


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11 Feb 2026, 12:21 am

Canadian Freedom Lover wrote:
Is your issue with word recall or choosing the correct words to use in a conversation?



Answer to your question: Yes, I have difficulty with word recall and choosing the correct words to use in a conversation.
Great question. Thank you



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11 Feb 2026, 12:25 am

funeralxempire wrote:
TheGoldenAfternoonWhiteRabbit wrote:
Finding words to say in a conversation is challenging. I am an introvert. My relative said that in conversations people like to talk about themselves. When I've asked a coworker in a conversation what their hobbies are, they got bored in the conversation. I've learned in this conversation that I didn't do anything wrong with asking what their hobbies are. It's timing I believe. There are times when people are meant to connect in a conversation and when they're not to meant to connect in a conversation.


I agree strongly with the underlined.

It's not always about what one tries to discuss, sometimes there's other factors.


My response to your comment: Great comment! This comment helps me remember there are other factors. Thank you.



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11 Feb 2026, 12:31 am

Tamaya wrote:
I always feel guilty when talking about myself in a conversation in case it makes me come across as self-absorbed or something.

The male and female NTs at my workplace talk about things like work, journeys, pets, families, politics, shopping, food, gossip, music, movies, stuff like that. None of the sports obsession that autistics stereotype NTs with. I find people very seldom talk about sports.


Response to your comments: Thank you kindly for sharing. I appreciate you. I can relate with not wanting to talk about myself much in a conversation; I’m more of a listener in a conversation. One of the topics I noticed is pets which is nice. I love dogs! At work not many people talk about sports; but they do talk about food like pizza.