I am having a hard time with depression.

Post Reply New Topic

I have battled off and on with depression over my adult life. My depression steams from always wanting to be in a romantic relationship yet never getting close to actually being in one.

To be honest I thought I had been doing well. But I hit a brick wall this week. I am realizing I just do not enjoy anything anymore. I was diagnosed as autistic a little over two years ago. After my diagnosis I figured- well that is that, now I will never be in a relationship- so I just sort of gave up. Got way into my hobbies and my interests.

Now I am no longer really interested in anything. I just feel depressed and sad over being single. I tried so very hard to craft a life I could be happy with outside of a relationship. But I failed.

One thing to remember is living by yourself is so much better than living with a mistake.

Many people fall into a trap of idealizing something and the lamenting its lack. You might want to try again to build a life that is enjoyable and if you do meet someone with whom to share it, you can both enjoy it.

You might start with a small corner of life and experiment to see if you can ignite a spark of enjoyment with a hobby, reading a favorite book, some artistic expression, or sport such as tennis or fishing.

You might also want to experiment with diet and supplementation. Our food mostly comes from fields that have been depleted of micro nutrients decades ago. A multi-vitamin at least might help a little. The internet might show people who have experimented with various OTC supplements that have proved effective.

While finding romance would be wonderful perhaps you should aim lower. Having some social life would be an improvement even if it is not romance. I recommend you find some social activities you can enjoy where you will meet people and make friends.

It might not be romance but perhaps it would be an improvement?

Yeah, depression sucks.

*Hug*

Female companionship or friendships, rather than romantic relationships, might prove beneficial. Friends have friends who might turn out to be possible avenues of deeper connections, also.

I worry I am too heartbroken and depressed over being single to want to have platonic friends. Yes I have been in years of therapy to deal with that. But nothing seems to work. The older I get the less I desire friends and a social life of any sort. I worry I have just been single for too many years.

If socializing is not your top priority then perhaps you could get some satisfaction from volunteering.

There are probably some volunteer organizations in your area. Cat shelters...Goodwill...Red Cross...Meals on Wheels...etc. If you can find a good match than the excuse to get out might be good for you.

I do not remotely ever want to do volunteer work.

I am sure having friends has worked for a lot of people. I just do not really have the desire for platonic friends in my life right now. Trust me I love the idea of friendship. I just seem to do fairly well without it in my life.

Well yeah, as far as I am concerned depression is something we feel when we are missing something in our lives. I feel I am missing a relationship. So I feel depressed. The cure for that sadness is a girlfriend someday. I do not believe it has any other cause.

If Plan A ^girlfriend isn't working out right away you might want to consider Plan B ^friends.

I have had friends in my life. The funny thing is I do not miss having friends one bit. I don't really have any desire for platonic friendships. I think they are great if other people get meaning, purpose and happiness out of platonic friendships. But they are just not for me.

I repeat: If Plan A ^girlfriend isn't working out right away you might want to consider Plan B ^friends.