23 Feb 2026, 12:15 pm
My mummy's brother, my uncle, forced my 13yo brother to get circumcised on 27 October 2025. When I asked my brother about it, he said he did not want it but he was forced as he is the firstborn. My uncle also wanted to get me circumcised this July or July 2027. I hate him for that. He thinks mutilation is okay. He thinks that allowing a healthy body part to be permanently removed without consent is okay because of 'tradition'. (We are Kikuyu, an ethnic group in Kenya.)
I sent my uncle a message on 6 November 2025 basically telling him how angry I was for doing that to my brother and how flawed his morals are to be doing that. I got in a lot, and I mean a LOT of trouble for that. But I am glad I said it. My "father" was also part of it, and he said something like "who are you to make a comment on a tradition that has been there since time immemorial" or some stuff like that. He also tried to make me feel guilty because he said something like "Fine. You don't want to get circumcised? That's on you. When you get circumcised, it'll be because you need it." (As in it would be necessary for my wellbeing.) But I do not care about the tradition. And there is no medical reason for me, and was absolutely no medical reason for my brother. In 2026, morals come first.
So on Saturday I won a trophy and lots of medals at the World Scholar's Cup, and I qualified for the Global Round. My uncle called and he said 'congratulations', but I was still, and am still, angry at him. So I went into fight/flight/freeze mode. I froze, then I fled upstairs.
Before I went to bed yesterday on Sunday, my mummy asked me about that. I explained that I dislike something he did in November but she said I still owe him basic courtesy. She said that no matter what I feel about a person, I owe them basic courtesy. I did not like that. I cannot even imagine being in my brother's position. He must feel so much regret for not standing up for himself. And now my mummy is telling me I have to talk to my uncle?
To make things worse, my "father" is very mean and he gave my brother whiskey in his circumcision party (something that should not exist). My brother said he hated it.
What are your thoughts on this? 
