What would you do if you made people feel bad but didnt care

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I've found that since middle school, I have consistently eventually made people feel bad and did not care automatically that I did. I don't think it is bad, until the consequences hit much alter on and even then I don't think it is a big deal. I am like thinking it is good and fun to troll or turn people off and talk in riddles and not be clear.

I used to be aware that I am less socially smart than other people, so I unknowingly joined a 1970s style Attack Therapy and Confrontation Group where a guy with a personality disorder (licensed therapist believe it or not) coached us to lash out and attack others and speak in undermining mean and toxic ways.

Due to autism, I copied the therapist's bad advice and anti-social ways of speaking to people.

But before that, I would violate people's boundaries though maybe without realizing it and troll people even before the group though, but I was over all much nicer and I think a good person before the group.

Over time it has gotten worse and worse, coupled by working night shifts and drinking coffee which make me irritable.

Then I started and stopped an SSRI, which gave me discontinuation syndrome and caused me to rage and be mean to others in a way that was socially inappropriate but I did not care and could not stop.

So now I am finding that not only am I socially not smart but also I am mean to people even though I do not identify that way. I also feel like I did not have enough social practice to work on these issue and not doing that.

However, I do not identify with anti social personalities or predators who purposely exploit, manipulate or harm others.

Over time, everyone I knew had stopped talking to me because I had this idea that trolling them or being mean to them might be a worthwhile risk to take, perhaps out of boredom or some sort of mis understanding of how this works.

My grandmother was very mean and tough love and domineering and involved in my life, though she had good life advice, I may have copied her personality due to autism and not talking to anyone else my age much.

If I didn't care, I don't imagine I'd feel motivated to do anything.

And depending on the circumstances not caring might actually be the appropriate response.