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Looking for someone to talk to.I have had two failed marriages.I`m still stuck in the 2nd one.I have children.My son is low functioning autism.My husband is gone alot.I`m loney boredand I want to get a job.I have trouble getting child care.Also low self esteem,shy.Family doesn`t seem to care or understand.Most men i meet seem only interested in sex.I need an emotional connection,in order for this to happen.I just don`t know wht to do,or how to meet people.I have thought of joining a church,but it`s hard for me to handle both of my kids bymelf.I doubt my husband would go with me.He is my son`s step father,and really isn`t very supportive.We do have a child together,but is if often to busy to spend time with her or me.Sometimes,I wish I was dead.

I can listen.

forget about men they are all useless.

You don't mention the age of your children but, the mention of needing day care for them must mean they are still very young.
Do you have any playgrounds, parks, a zoo or other children's activity groups close to home where your children can play and you can meet other young mothers? Prehaps, join a Parent Group in your area?

Forget men...too many of them are a bunch of losers and only have one thing on their mind.

Concentrate on yourself...and build your own self esteem. Take your kids to the public library where there should be a Children's
Room full of books and activities and pick out some books to occupy your mind. Oprah has a great book club!

While looking for a job, do some volunteer work...you can make your own hours to fit in your schedule with the kids, volunteer
work looks good on a job resume and who knows...the volunteer work could lead to a paying job!

Take up some hobbies...learn to knit or crochet (a big thing now as there are alot of "Learn how" classes being formed), learn
how to decorate cakes for those kids' birthdays when they come up...wherever your interests lie, some people have actually
created their own jobs out of hobbies they enjoy. Good luck!

Figure out what patterns were in your marriages. What was it that didn't work, why were you drawn to them to begin with. Most think it's a pretty mysterious thing, it isn't, open your eyes. Then don't repeat it with the next swingin dick that comes along. It isn't the men that screw it up, it's our choices. It works the other way, but I don't go into hate mode because of my choices either. It's called taking responsibility for yourself.