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I'm new here. I strongly suspect I have AS, although I've never been diagnosed as such. If I DO have AS, I'm very high functioning, I suppose-- I'm married, have a 6 month old little girl...

But, I just don't fit. I don't know why. I say and do things that make others mad at me or make them think I'm stupid or am doing something just to be obnoxious. (Good Lord, talk abotu a run on sentence- sorry) I'm just so frutsrated. I do things to be "social" and end up only showcasing my awkwardness.

I have 3 friends, one of whom is my husband. I don't do aquaintances-- it's impossible for me to just "hang out and chat" with people I don't know. I know they don't like me and then, I get nervous and babble and make them think I'm a complete bloody bafoon.

I guess I'm here to see if I DO have Asperger. Y'all do. Do I seem to be one of you? I can give you more info, if necessary... Or am I just a socially inept freak or no medical right?

Welcome to WP!

Tim

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Welcome MFN1378,

Lots of choices but not enough information. As clear as you define your condition, socially inept freak, you of course are welcome and will fit in here, we consider that high functioning.

As to the fine details of psycobabble, ASD, ADD, ADHD, with a twist of lime, that takes a professional bartender to be sure.

I do not understand why being the mother of a six month old is not given full disability status.

The test is join in, as you have no social life you have us. If you understand what is being said, find your own life to be the same, that is what support is about.

There is a parents forum, where mothers talk endlessly about their children, post pictures, and will ramble for a year about a three year old, it is like they have nothing else to do. There are other young mothers. people in your own life situation.

Not everyone here is on the ASD Spectrum, some come just because we are such well known Classy Aspies. Fans, you got to love them.

A lot of this is cultural background, anyone who writes, Y'all, without thinking is giving away their location, in West Texas it is Ya'll, so the Southeast? Good Lord, also locates.

Girls were always hard to locate, Dx, for culture hides them. One day they grow up, get married, have children, and suddenly discover they are lost in the adult world, and have no idea why. At least you are working on it, and have a lead.

Girls and women have always seemed alien to me. So I say to you, right place, wrong gender, for me to deal with. Plenty of girls here that can see past that sugar and spice mask Ya'll wear.

Welcome, meet the folks, and the more you say the more there is to respond to.

You can't be too freaky, you have a baby! I had three and then adopted two. You're welcome to hang here, you don't even have to chatter. There are some pretty neat articles on this site, one about the use of small talk. Stay as long as you like.

LOL thanks for the welcome, y'all (I'm actually from Southern Alabama).

What I mean by having a minor case, I guess, is... Although I've always been rather odd, no one has ever seen fit to take me aside and test the snot out of me... Well, not true. I had numerous IQ tests when I was younger trying to figure out why I was so... Different. It was finally decided that I was simply an "old soul" of sorts and had little to nothing in common with children. But, words such as "autistic" or "asperger's" never came up.

I feel mystified, most times by social situations, dealing with people I know in passing, and just dealing in general. I have the world's worst habit of either running my mouth too much (trying to be social and only to have people talk about how strange I am afterwards) or not speaking at all (and then being labeled, well... Not nice. ). Can't win for losin'.

My husband is really no more social than I... Only, his is due to flat out not caring. Whereas, I TRY, I just screw it up and end up feeling really badly about myself. I don't want my poor daughter to always feel out of place or like she's acting, just to be a part of a social circle, ya know?

How on earth do you cope with never knowing where you stand with people? It's driving me batty (-ier, whatever).

I think you have to assume that most people really don't think about you at all. They have their own concerns. Read the Temple Grandin book "The Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships"