what's your living situation?

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How do most of the people here prefer to live? What do you see as the benefits and/or disadvantages?
I live with one housemate in a rented house.

you forgot living with animals

I currently live with a roommate, and that is my preference--until I get a partner.

Tim

I voted: with partner and/or kids because I have my daughter living with me part time.

I live mostly alone though since there are times she spends with her mom even on my days with her if they have something like a concert or trip to go to/on. I'm pretty flexible with our scheduled custody because I want our daughter to not feel like a possession that is handed back-and-forth.

I just read your thread title and then the question in your first post... two different things...
"What's your living situation"
and
"How do most of the people here prefer to live?"

To answer your second question...

I do not prefer to live alone, although there are plenty of times I like being alone.
I am talking about the presence of an intimate partner... someone I can cuddle up to, or hug and hold, or just spend time with in a closer setting than a friend.
Just differentiating between being with my daughter and being with someone else.

Advantages of living alone?
All my idiosyncrasies can come out and no one will be bothered by them.
Pick my own music, lighting, ways of cooking, cleaning, etc.
Less of the stress that comes from having to divide my attention between what I am doing/needing and what the other person is doing/needing.
Not having someone close to worry about in the immediacy... I always am concerned about my daughter, even when she is not with me. Same thing with my former wife... I used to keep a bit of worry in my mind that she was okay when we were not together.

Disadvantages of living alone?
Loneliness
Not experiencing a different point-of-view, hearing a different voice, smelling different smells, not being in close proximity to beauty in another person up close and in a manner I can appreciate more intimately than from a distance with a stranger.
The absence of the feeling of security in having another being that could show compassion, caring, loving, appreciation.
Not having someone who might be able to help me stay focused and organized sometimes.
Not having the intellectual stimulation that comes from conversations, sharing.
Not having the opportunity for a physical touch no matter how soft and faint or powerful and exciting.

Advantages of living with my daughter?
FUN! We're both fairly wacky and I get to have those moments when I can just sit back and take in how much she has grown and matured, yet keeps her child-like energy alive. Kids are so much more interesting for me to watch than adults. Adults get so burdened by their lives... kids are constantly seeking, exploring, exploding with energy. It's amazing to see the difference between the two groups.

Responsibility! I have this sense of having to be the checks & balances, in a sense, and I do feel good when I am doing what I think is a good job at guiding, teaching and protecting my daughter. It is a challenge which I feel naturally attuned to.

Any of the options are equally valid with or without pets for the purpose of the poll.

I live with my wife and 3 yo son.

I really like living with them, but there are times when I get nostalgic for my single days living alone.

Living alone has it's pluses for certain!
The cleaning up chores I am skirtin'
Walked around in the buff
till the town had enough,
Now I am forced to at least close the curtain!

I'm living with parents right now since I only make $10k a year

I'd rather live alone or with a special lady friend.

Ever get that 'can't stop rhyming' feeling, wsmac?

I live with my husband and kitty-cat, plus sometimes step-kids and other relatives who stay for a while. It seems to work. The advantage of living with someone is having someone to share things with, thoughts, feelings, and sometimes to argue with

I have lived alone and although I like my present situation, living alone has a few advantages; The TV remote control being all yours is one of them, lol.

I live with my partner and my daughter, who will soon be 3-years-old.

I don't think I could live alone. Nothing to keep my brain in check. I'd probably go nuts.
At the same time, I seem to spend a lot of my time trying to get away and be alone. If I don't have my alone time, I go nuts. Can't win, I guess.

I live at my mother's house, not because I couldn't cope with living on my own but because it makes it much easier to live within my means financially and still have what you might call an acceptable quality of life. And besides ethically I don't see living alone as a good thing in an area where there's a housing shortage and a big homelessness problem.

Oh... ... the more I see of your posts, the more I like you Starr. Does he...like... live there ALL the time? You live kinda far from me and I do have to be back for school and work and my daughter.

Lol, thanks, you've cheered me up today, wsmac Maybe one day they'll invent a time travel machine and you could pop over for a coffee, lol, and get home back before you even left?

I live with my wife and 2 kids.

Advantages - someone to love me and provide company. The happiness of seeing the kids grow and develop, without all the baggage that I carted around with me as a child.

Disadvantages - I guess when I was single and living alone, I did a lot more dealing with people for myself. Now, because by NT wife is very confident in all situations I tend to just let her deal with stuff. That leads to mixed feelings - it makes me feel inadequate a lot of the time, but secretly I'm relieved I don't have to deal with people.

Sometimes I want my own space or do my own thing, and it's hard when there are four people with needs.

That's interesting enough to be it's own thread!

How many Aspies keep back in the shadows of their NT mates?

I have trouble with that as well. For awhile, my partner would push me to do things that I just couldn't seem to do. Like in a "tough love" sort of way. Luckily I think he realised that it didn't do me any good at all. Now, if a phone call needs to be made (for example) he usually just does it himself straight away. Then again, I think he knows that it'll never get done if he doesn't do it. That does make me feel bad. But I'd still rather have it this way than being pushed to do it myself.