Do Aspies have a desire to be special?

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Ive noticed Aspies may choose to dress Extravegantly, attract attention to themselves by constantly making jokes or even performing 'acrobatics' in public.

Is this a way of communicating for them or a feeling of frustration of not socializing enough?

You can tell they're Aspie's how?

I know theyre aspies. I have 3 have examples. All 17-20

they dont like to conform to any mainstream fashions (Jock, Goth, Punk etc) and like to attract attention to themselves in unconventional ways.

Not this Aspie. I try to dress as uninterestingly as possible so as to avoid detection.

Umm'k, fair enough.

Yeah, I think you may have a bit more then a grain of truth to your observation. HiPpy in my case. When you get into a fringe group, the criteria is different, the unnormal acceptable. The standard of dress, the uniform, of the group keeps the "normals" away from you, gives you space. So while on the surface it looks like you might be trying to stand out and you are, you're also putting up walls.

Jokes... I think you may find more then a couple class clowns in here. I've seen a few admit it, me included. Although I would prefer to say, class instigator, I got the clown to do it. I don't think it would be real hard to figure out you're just trying to get excepted into the herd. Again, you're standing out in order to fit in and just like before, you're keeping some away. Sometimes at others expense, not real proud of some of my old habits.

I do think that when you're into something different and someone all of a sudden is right next to you doing the same thing, it's like.... Well hello there, you like shinys too? It's when you really step away from the crowd and do what you like and find these others that it really starts to work right.

I was in a grocery store doing my blur of motion through it, get in, get out and I kept getting these stares from people. I'm used to it, doesn't bother me anymore. But then I got to thinking, hey wait a minute, I'm in conform mode, hiding in the look of the herd, what the hell is going on here. Then it dawned on me, I had my friends kids tailing me, both Asian Americans, they weren't staring at me. Rude. Some of us are like that, it isn't easy to blend in, we have habits that stand out in a crowd. And that's what we're here for, help with the coping skills. I'm not holding my breath for society to change, but I know how to do camouflage and if I don't, someone else here will. The VC were some of the best, how to hide in plain sight.

I don't know any adult aspies so I don't know. As for me, I like to blend and be inconspicuous.

From what I know, the desire to be special is more likely a symptom of a Schizotypal disorder than Asperger's syndrome.

I have pink hair. Does that count?

But at the same time, attention makes me nervous.

I have a Gold Tooth and I never go out without wearing a distinctive hat.

I dress in Punk fashion in the warmer months, because I like that era. I've never thought that I was drawing attention to myself.

I am as sedate as one can be. Khaki dockers, dark shoes(Plainer than almost any made today! I have to HUNT for them!), Light colored shirt.

I haven't seen anyone use the word special but you. Let's try not to confuse the issue at hand.

Schizotypal? What a joke. Desire to be different? I am different. Sometimes I play it to the hilt and sometimes you won't see me. Depends on what I have to do, what I'm forced to do and where I have to do it.

Good for you. I have purple hair but do like to cover it up with a hat when I'm not feeling 'on'. I get different reactions in New Zealand anyway. People here come up and compliment me. When I visited the UK they stared and looked like they were sucking on a lemon. Glad I don't live there anymore.

Little girls like me. I notice that I get more attention about it here in Norway than I do in Germany or England...

Before I learned about AS I always thought I was special.Once I had the
revelation about AS I realised EVERYONE in the world is special in their own
way,whether they have AS or not

Last edited by pluto on 20 Dec 2007, 7:16 pm, edited 1 time in total.

In case it had escaped your attention, the title of the thread is "Do Aspies have a desire to be special?".

And I wasn't joking when I mentioned Schizotypal disorder. I am on the Schizo spectrum myself, so I know what I am talking about.