Need some help
I am currently suffering from some slight depression, but most of all I don't seem to know who people are anymore. I hope my explanation makes sense. I was fine up until a few weeks ago, as I am not quite sure what to do with my life. I have been accepted into honour arts in a prestigious university (University of Waterloo if anyone has heard of it), but I am not quite sure if that is the right thing to do. I was looking at getting a bachelor's degree in nursing as here in Canada we have a pressing need for medical professionals, however my math and science marks weren't good enough for them to consider me. I need reassurance that I am doing the right thing.
The second thing that's making me upset is that people that I sort of considered friends don't have the same morals as me. I have been visiting a number of these peoples facebooks and I was, not surprisingly, saw them in 'party mode', that is having drinks in their hands and so forth. I am rather extremly against this sort of thing, and don't know how to view these people.
Also, there used to be people who would say hi to me, but now they don't. I don't know why the change.
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It sounds more likely that you are changing ... and that you could be getting a bit judgemental.
Loosen up.
Your morals and standards are your own - nobody can take them from you and you'll always (in your own mind at least) have the higher ground.
You can't expect others to conform to your unwritten standards though.
Could you try to be a little more accepting?
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No one can reassure you that you are doing the right thing...only you know whats best for you and your future...no one else can tell you. If you feel that what your doing now, is what you really want to be doing, then go for it. If it's not...then why ARE you doing it in the first place?
As far as people having different morals than you...no one has the exact same morals. You may just have to accept the fact that they enjoy partying and putting party photos on display. I know a lot of people who do this, it's not just your friends.
As far as people not saying hi to you anymore...there must be a reason for that. Sit down and think about it...have you changed the way that you think/act towards them? Or have they simply decided to ignore you?
I hope you get over the depression soon.
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It sounds more likely that you are changing ... and that you could be getting a bit judgemental.
Loosen up.
Your morals and standards are your own - nobody can take them from you and you'll always (in your own mind at least) have the higher ground.
You can't expect others to conform to your unwritten standards though.
Could you try to be a little more accepting?
Don't get me wrong, I am a very accepting person. I am just wondering if i should talk to these people if they talk to me or just ignore them.
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I have Asperger's Syndrome. I'm not an Aspie.
Well, facebook has got to be the least social of all the social networks I've seen.
If you want to talk to someone, you should try, regardless of what they have on their site.
Just be warned that sometimes people want to project a certain image (eg: want to be seen as cool) and if you're the antithesis of that image, they may openly reject you in order to improve their own image.
If that happens, don't get too upset, it's not you - it's definitely them - and they're not people worth associating with.
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You all have nothing to be depressed about.I failed to flush the toilet, so my mom got angry and threatened to slap me. I was so angry at her for threatening such a thing that i felt worthless. Anger at myself, I threw things. My mad mama was angry at me for throwing things. i was frustrated and needed to throw things. Throwing things help me relieve stress. So she got angry and gave me a whipping. I told her to strangle me if she felt the need to have to whip an 18 year old. I told her she should have never had me. I never stayed up past midnight on a school night, but I stayed awake til 3:30am throwing things, i was so angry. i contemplated waking up early at 5:30 to run away, stealing valuable china to throw and break, and even turning the stove on to burn the house down. How dare she treat me like a f***ing child? (Excuse me, I never curse, I'm just that mad). After the whipping I felt so worthless, that I hit myself with a metal purse, it left a bruise, it felt good to hurt the person who caused herself to get a whipping at 18. I made a resolution never to get any whippings once I was 10 yrs old, I broke a promise to myself. I feel like a sorry ass b***h, eventhough I understand I have Autism, which makes it hard to control my emotions. Autism or not, no one is supposed to get a beating at 18. I wish so badly to make my mother feel bad for what she did. If I ran away, i'll laugh while she cries worrying. I feel like i'm the only adult going through this. She had no damn right to put her damn hands on me. i am considered an adult. Someone please respond with the same concern. I fell alone in this.
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Wait a minute!
I'm surprised the original poster didn't bring this up!
Plant. This story sounds like bogus, unable to be varified. Do not flood the thread with this crap. I had a problem i wanted some help with, after all isn't that what this site is meant for? If you have problems excersise it on the board, but don't post this on the thread in a pathetic attempt to insult me because all its done is irritated me.
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