*Desperate About...Interacting?*

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So it's like that: it's been two month since I moved into England; and 90% of this time - I spend in my tiny room in front of computer screen... Or (ocasionally) wandering downstairs and upstairs - when there is no one at home... You imagine?

Now - how would You feel? At first - I loved it! You know, I'm a typical loner and I prefer to spend time on my own... But holly s**t! It's been two f*****g months! I feel trapped! There's no one to talk; there's no one to listen; there's no one who cares...

What should I do? I'm stuck in my own, little, autistic world... I can't breathe. I'm choking. How long can I live like that? How long my mind will stand that? Where should I go? How should I escape? I'm all alone. I'm all alone. I'm all alone.

I'm so scared...

I'm pretty used to the feeling of being alone. Ive just accepted it as part of being me. I'm not saying you should too, but it's not so bad once you get used to it. Dont get me wrong I feel lonely sometimes, and sometimes I wish for others company, and if thats what you really want then you should seek it. I know however that that's the difficult part.

Dont really have much advice on how to get out of your isolation, but I hope you feel better and something works out for you...........

i got one for that, with my work i move around a lot, and being asperger, i dont make friends, so im basically alone all the time, so to satisfy my human need for interaction, what i do is i find a nice restaurant or coffee shop and i go there often, after a while the waiter/waitresses will recognise you, so that way you still interact with people on a friendly bassis but it is not overwhelming like actual friends can be, when i was in kingston, ontario, i went to the book store every saturday and to the german restaurant every wednesday ...

good luck

There's nothing in the secret garden. Only burnt down ground , ashes and ruins... No voices - because I cut off my ears; no images - because I burnt out my eyes. / How the hell can I replace the lack to the emptiness? Useless words and useless sighs. How much better they are than myself? Nothing relly matters. No one really understands - just like I don't uderstand... I fit nowhere. I am similar to no one. I can not find calm and joy in what I am being told I'm supposed to... / Why can't You understand? Why can't You at least ignore my moaning; instead of laughing at me and showing me how real You are and happy with Your strategies of learning to the world... / I feel nobody. I live nowhere. I crawl towards...???

I've been the same way for years.

Alcohol and cigs seems to be my outlet.
But that's me and I don't recommend them for anyone else.

If you ever find the answer let me know.

This forum is about as close as I come to social outings.

I know how you feel. I've been alone for just about 2 months now too. I almost signed up for another college course for some sort of interaction with other people.
You've just got to get out there and find people. I'm not sure where these people may be hiding myself, but I doubt they are hiding in your home.
I have been going to the same restaurants and clothing store and the people that work there do know me, maybe not by name but the attention is nice.

every time I emigrated I didn't meet any friends for the first 8-12 months. it took time to get used to the surroundings, to build up a "plan" of the city in my head, plus I didn't really feel that bad about it most of the time.

when I did feel lonely I would usually go to the city centre and sit in a busy Starbucks watching the street traffic, or in some caffe at the airport or the train station. it felt good to be around people and meet random talkative travellers for a short conversation.