Non romantic obsessions with people

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I often had trouble telling the two apart.. romantic obsessions and non romantic ones... and because of that i've broken a lot of hearts.

But my main question is.. do you ever get non romantic obsessions with people? You think about them all the time and like to talk to them etc, but you don't like them in a romantic way?

How interesting to consider.......

Can't say that I have. Thinking now, not sure how I would tell the difference.
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For some reason I tend to get obsessed with my enemies. It's like I have a secret crush on them and I don't even know it. I try real hard to block it out though.


I have gotten attached to kids in the past when I was a kid because I would really really like them. But sadly I teased them because I wanted their attention. When I was real little, I followed kids around on the playground I liked. I can remember them telling me "Don't follow me" and one of them pushed me down. I did befriend two of them. I don't know know if they did it to be nice or not.

It also happens with women (i'm not gay) and people older than me. It's really weird.

I'd had people have non-romantic obsessions with me. Two people wanted to be me - that I could never understand.

I'm kind of that way about some people too.

Yes... it happens to me all the time. People can become my special interests.

Yes, I have one right now. I mean i obsess over one person right now, although if someone would ask me if I want to be with him romantically, i would say no.

Interesting that all the respondents so far have been female.

Yeah. This is a really interesting topic.

I wish I had known about my husband's AS while we were still together. It would have saved me a lot of heartache and him a lot of headache.

He just loves women, mostly girls though who are between 18 and 21 years old. He gets along with them so well. Perhaps now, knowing his AS, I would consider it as non-romantic obsessions for him (that goes on presently). It's like he could never tell when girls were openly flirting with him (what he said) and he would entertain them without realizing how hurtful it was to me.

I often wondered if it was because he was bullied when he was young that when he got older, he made up for it by seeking attention from girls who were clearly infatuated with him. The more the merrier.

I think I would have been able to overlook how much he hurt me had I known at the time that perhaps he viewed these relationships as friendships and nothing romantic. But believe me, I found it hard to tell myself because apart from our love-making in hopefully what was a monogamous marriage, he pretty much treated me as he would treat any other girl he liked.

Well, I had a pretty major obsession that sometimes came with romantic feelings, but sometimes had a distinct absense of any of those feelings. So, yes or not, depending on how you look at it. I've had an obsession that was at times totally non-romantic, but not always non-romantic (as far as feelings that is.)

yeah, for me too.

esther, i had started a friendship with someone like your husband when i was about 25, and my gf at the time thought i was cheating on her because i kept talking about him, really i think it was 'a-dar' and hippie artist connecting, but because i was talking about him all the time she really took it as a romantic thing, and said he was a pervert, which really, my naivete means that could go either way.. well yeah, it got ugly, and eventually it did go that way, and it became a manic adventure for the history books.

when someone seems to be displaying a trait or way of life that fascinates me, i want to know more and more about it and find out their secrets.

that happens with romantic interests too, but it's not always a romantic interest.

I tend to find people whom I notice have something in common with me, and then I tend to greatly obsess over them, sometimes without actually meeting them personally. None of this is romantic - in fact I identify myself as 'straight,' but these "obsessions" have been male. (Basically just people I would like to befriend)

I remember going to an honor band out of town and finding another guy in my section to be very reserved and withdrawn, and I couldn't find anything to say to him other than a request to sign my program on the night of the concert (which I did basically for the purpose of knowing what his name was).

I then stalked him over the internet and added him on Facebook, then I chose to go to a music camp because it was located in his home city. I hate myself for being a stalker, but at the same time I'm glad that I did this because that week at music camp was one of the better experiences of my life tbh.

Yeah, I get these obsessions. Usually with people who have jobs I'd like to have eg university lecturer, artist, writer etc. I rarely have any actual contact with these people, which is probably just as well, because I think I would come across as slightly creepy. I just see them around, or hear my friend talking about them, and then I have imaginary conversations with them. The imaginary conversations are always better than the real conversations.