A date...? Or not...?

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I am 22 and I've never been in a romantic relationship before. I've never even been on a date . Recently, I met a guy through a friend at work who I am rather attracted to. I mentioned him before in another thread. I am not sure if he feels the same way about me, but from his behavior, and the behavior of my friends at work, it seems like he might. He is 18 and goes to college in another state, but he is home for winter break. We decided we wanted to hang out together, and with the help of one of our mutual aquaintances decided to go see "Chronicles of Narnia," even though I've seen it already.

First of all, I'm not sure if this is a date or not. How do you know the difference between a "date" and just going to the movies with someone who you are attracted to but are just friends with? He didn't say "want to go out with me?" or "it's a date" or any of those stereotypical things. But at the same time our mutual aquaintance teased me about going on a date with this guy. I'm not sure if she was just joking or if she was serious.

Second of all, if it is a date, what is the normal sort of thing that happens on dates? I realize that what separates couples from just being friends is the physical attraction thing, but what is normal for say, a first date, a second date, and so on?

It's interesting that you're going to see the chronicles of narnia. I don't know how romantic a disney movie can be. I haven't seen it yet tho, so I probably have no idea.

We'll it dosn't have to be a romantic movie to be considered ar date. But sometimes it's hard to tell rather it's a date or not. However if he's interested he'll contact you. Does he have your number????

There was a girl I used to like (she's still a friend), I went to the movies with her several times, but we never went on a date. So yeah, it's hard to work out what is a date and what isn't a date.

Good luck though

GA

Speaking as a guy, and adding a liberal sprinkling of When Harry Met Sally, the person you're going out with is probably hoping it's a date, too. In my experience, it's rare for a guy and a girl who haven't known each other very long to hang out alone as just friends. And I can't imagine a guy going to a movie with a girl he likes and thinking, "Oh man, I sure hope this doesn't turn into anything more!"

Keeping in mind that I'm autistic and what the hell do I know about it, I would say there's a 90-95% chance it's a date. As for what happens next, that's up to you. What kinds of things would you want to happen on a first date? If he hasn't done them by the end, do them yourself!

Jeremy

To update you all:

We watched the movie, which we both enjoyed. Then we just sort of stood out in the lobby area and talked- for several hours, I think? About the movie, then about books, about ourselves, about our thoughts on people and different concepts, about anime (which I am afraid I may have gone too far with, though I did tell him to tell me to interrupt me if I go too far). We ended up leaving because the theater was closing up.

I'm still not sure if it was a date, though my coworker went around telling people I had a date with this guy yesterday night at work. I'm not sure if he considers it one or if my coworker was just trying to embarrass me.

Either way, it was nice, and I enjoyed it. We have a lot of similiarities, but also, of course, a lot of differences, too. Even if he is not looking for a romantic relationship, a friendship would be good, too (though I wouldn't mind the former, heh).

Man I wish I knew a girl who wanted to go on and on about anime. Good to hear you had fun though!

Sounds like a date to me! I'm glad you had fun.

Jeremy

Either way, sounds like you clocked on to a good friend.

Sounds like my first date with my wife, only we talked before the movie (and almost missed it). I would definately categorize that as a date. There's no way a guy would hang around talking for hours if he didn't enjoy your company. To paraphrase Yogi Bera, 90% of romance is half friendship. A boyfriend is a friend first. And don't let yourself be embarrassed by the office comments. It turns out I was my wife's first date, and when I took her home her street looked like a runway. Every light in the neighborhood was on and everyone was peeking out of their windows to see if I would kiss her.

I'm pretty sure he saw it as a date. He could be gay though.

/shrug

Well, if you stood around talking until the theatre had to close I'd say it was a date. If it was just a friends outing you probably wouldn't have spent as long talking, you may have seen the movie, briefly chatted and continued on you way, but talking until the theatre closed is a bit of time.
He could have wanted to go out with you get to know you a bit better as friends and then the chatting afterwards was partly to get to know you and also because he enjoyed it.. so maybe wait until next time and see what happens