Appearently I'm not a person.

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Im not a person. I had a girl tell me today that she didn't think I was a person when she first met me, but just an awkward thing. She also ingores me like I don't exist to begin with, so anyway I think I'm going to kill myself chasing a tornado today. I'm not kidding either. Tornado event in the south, I'll just drive right into one.

If at all possible try meeting an different girl before driving into a tornado because of what some idiot said to you. Life is to short to make it any shorter before you have a chance to experiement with all that it entails.

I don't think she meant it how you interpreted it.

On a side note, I read about someone who survived driving into a tornado, sounds like fun...

Dustin, recently I have sometimes suspected/felt as though some people do not view me as a full person, but as half a person. I currently don't have much of a social life, but I remember that when I had friends in secondary school, it felt quite reassuring that the people who truly knew me took me as I am, with all my quirks and little flaws, and I was there for them in the same way. At the same time, I have always known that no one - not you, not me, not anyone- NEEDS validation from an outside source to call yourself 'a person', or 'complete', or whatever. I am the type of person who likes to get compliments, and who seeks assurance and confirmation of my abilities because my self-confidence isn't always overflowing, but I always make sure that my self-confidence is enough to keep me going when I'm a little down. Focus on your qualities as a person, all the things that make you worth fighting for.

She meant it as I thought you'd be super awkward and not really talk, but when I saw you interact I see you as a person... ? and she called the other guys at the table, cute and me this. FEELS GREAT. Tornado, here I come.

You must be "right south" of me. We have t-storms here but think we'll miss the tornadoes. Looks nasty though.

Besides, in most places in the Southeast you can't chase tornadoes 'cause you can't see them like you can in the plains, so nyah! You're just going to find another way to off yourself. Unless you live in a trailer - than you don't have to chase them - they'll find you.

Seriously - that sounds like a strange thing for her to say to you. What kind of sociopath says that to another person? Unless she's like, 6 years old - sounds as if she's the awkward one.

You not only want to kill yourself over a girl, but over what she said to you?

Man, that's sad. Your whole principle of self-worth is based upon what other people say to you, especially those people that do not seem to like you. Not just sad, it's completely effed up!

How do you think she will react when she finds out that you're dead? Most likely, she'll just shrug her shoulders, toss her hair, and get on with her life and her friends. Do you really want such a superficial person inspiring you to kill yourself?

Part of how we're identified and judged is by the people who inspire us. You are inspired by a completely self-centered, judgmental, and cold-hearted hündin! Not only that, but you allow the inspiration to guide you into thoughts of suicide, instead of thoughts of self-improvement.

Such people are commonly called "Losers." Do you want the word "Loser" tagged onto your headstone?

Yeah, like it's true just because she says it!

I know what you mean. She was being rude. She's a rude person. It's not worth driving into a tornado over.

Exactly. When somebody says something like that, either they're so clueless they don't know it'll hurt you, or they're just mean and not afraid to be open about their meanness.

I wouldn't take it seriously. I know a lot of people say things with out meaning them, or thinking the person would take it seriously.
And may I just take the opportunity to say this now, this includes males! Seriously, every Autism forum I've been too, a significant amount of the people there think all females are b*****s who deliberately try to wreck their life. It's not like that, I know loads of NT girls who'd never do any of the horrible crap SOME girls do to people on here. Not all girls are like that. I hope people here don't seriously base all girls on a few negative experiences with them... If I were to do that with males I wouldn't be posting on this forum.
EMZ.

I agree with Fnord on this one, one hundred percent - as a once sniveling and insecure teen myself, I fully understand what you're going through over this emotionally, but you really have got to stop evaluating your own self worth based on what some thoughtless superficial bimbo babbles at you, no matter how attractive you find her.

Her opinion means nothing, because there was no thought behind it, just empty NT talk, yak yak yak - my father used to call that 'talking just to hear your own head rattle'. Why would you value the opinion of someone who would say something so thoughtless in the first place? Do you admire bullies and hate yourself because they're meaner than you? I hope you don't ever want to find yourself behaving like such a douchebag to someone else, so don't waste time or emotional energy interacting with people who do that to you.

You are not a particular way or a specific anything just because she pronounced it so. That's only her skewed perception, based on the way her brain works (or doesn't, more likely). I had a few girls trash my self-image when I was a teen, I know how devastating it feels in the moment. Funny thing, I began to realize later, it was just them - there were plenty of other girls who liked me just fine - ironically, I now look at photos of myself during those insecure years and realize damn, I was a good-looking guy! If I'd actually seen myself as I was, I wouldn't have been nearly so neurotic or self-abusive (insert teenage self-abuse joke here).

Don't let it get to you, man, her inane remarks aren't nearly as important as they may feel right now. And no other human being is worth destroying yourself over. Believe me, they won't appreciate the gesture.

post some photos from OZ.

You are - You are able to make a statement like this, therefore you have a consciousness, therefore you are a person ("Cogito, ergo sum").



Why do care what other think? Why bother about other people's opinion; don't forget: 50% of the population have an IQ below 100 (sometime I think this figure is an underestimate ... ).

"when she first met me" is the past, not the present. Saying something was true for her when she first met you means it's not true now. (Plus, as others have said, so what, that's just one person's viewpoint. Her opinion doesn't have any bearing on who you are.)

NTs are different to us-I don`t care what their opinion of me or us is. You need to become a bit more thick skinned and realise that they do not matter to us-we have our own culture and identity and we are as good as them,if not a whole lot better...

Dude,

Look forget it. I know its farked but us aspies take that type of criticism like a hammer blow. I can remember times like that when i have been physically sick. Until i was diagnosed i thought it was normal to rerun those events on my head over and over and over......

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Anyway, firstly accept the reality of the situation, then understand that the anxiety you are prolly feeling is to do with your aspie nature.

Chill out, have a giggle at yourself.

Hmmm death by Torando.. i could think of more pleasent ways to go