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I forgive people in the autistic community for anything they do to me, because they're my family. My mother says I shouldn't, because even if they're my family they should get what they deserve if they do something wrong. Yet when someone in my biological family does something wrong to me, my mother tells me off for badmouthing them to others because I'm supposed to honor the family and respect them and keep their secrets. What bothers me is 1) she judges people's worth on whether they're biologically related to you, 2) she contradicts herself, first saying that you have to give anyone what they deserve whether they're family or not but then saying I have to let them get away with s**t because they're family, and 3) she wants me to let them get away with hurting me because they're my biological relatives. Makes a lot of sense, doesn't it. And for the record, my biological relatives are not my real family; you guys are. They're too bossy and they try to control you and they discriminated against me when I was a child because I was a child and had backward views on things, and they're opinionated about you and won't stick by your decisions... rather, they will tell you exactly what they think if they disagree with you and will try to force their views on you. They don't do it anymore, at least not with me, but they used to. One of my aunts once said, when I was 13 or 14, that she owned her children and that they were her property, and that spooked the s**t out of me.

^^ I must say I very much agree. I find great confusing pixies in the idea that similar genes imply that one must unconditionally act differently toward that individual. ^^ Oh dear, I believe that is certainly mean that your auntie stated that her children are her property. ^^ I believe no being belongs to another being. (Perhaps, for that matter nor does any item relatively, however this is perhaps unrelated here). ^^ I find my mother in particular contradicts herself. I may be incorrect and she is lovely. However, I notice that most of my family appear to be against individuals for certain acts, yet feel they are justified for completing acts that could be considered similar. ^^ Alas, I do worry that I perhaps do this also, and I am most possibly incorrect, and wish not to be horrible.