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17 Nov 2013, 10:26 pm

Off topic, Is that you in the avatar? You looked a lot different in the video.


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18 Nov 2013, 1:30 am

From some period of my life in the video, yes. I have been blonde for the past year, and generally haven't kept the same hair style over time for long. I like to mix things up. My sister took the picture in my avatar... um... I guess it was 3 years years ago now, when I self-published my book for the back cover. Well, something like this picture. This was an impromptu "lighting" shot she took that I fell in love with because it was quirky (which I am, and so is the book to some degree). If you look through my facebook pics in general, there's a few with similar looks. But mostly, I was all dressed up and it was supposed to be a fairly professional shot, that I screwed up. haha.


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18 Nov 2013, 4:44 pm

What is your natural hair color?


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18 Nov 2013, 7:06 pm

The color in my avatar.


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19 Nov 2013, 4:40 pm

So I guess you dyed your hair blonde.


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19 Nov 2013, 7:57 pm

Bleached it, yes. why? You can't "dye" hair lighter. not really.


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21 Nov 2013, 1:56 am

jennica wrote:
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Fertility really does drop off after age 35. I conceived my son at 29, and my daughter at 34, and I conceived the first month I started trying. This time around I'm 38 and I thought it would be the same story, but it took almost a year to conceive. I was almost ready to give up.

Also, meltdowns might happen every now and then despite best intentions. But to minimize them, I did the whole "attachment parenting" thing, which to me just seemed like "lazy parenting" designed to not have to hear a lot of crying. I can't stand crying, so I did whatever my kids wanted so that I didn't have to hear it: co-sleeping, carrying/wearing them around, breastfeeding, etc. Of course, there is a risk of getting touched out this way, but I preferred that to hearing crying. I also figured out that I need alone time. So I got a babysitter for my daughter twice a week, and before that I spent lots of evenings at a coffee shop while Dh watched the kids. Oh, and my kids aren't spoiled, and they do just start sleeping through the night on there own around 3 years old by some sort of magic - certainly not from anything we did
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I am so sorry I didn't respond to this sooner. I think I forgot to click on the 'notify me' tab when I posted! :lol:

Oh I know it does; my Mom is always reminding me when we talk about it. She's not a pushy Mom at all (thank goodness) and neither is my Father. They both understand that I'm single (and of course childless) until I say otherwise and are more than happy with that. However I do understand that the older I become, the more difficult my chances will be, which is a terrifying notion. I do want children that are produced by myself and my husband (whoever he may turn out to be), but if it turns out that it can't happen that way, I will have to accept that. Will it suck? Massively, yes of course, but like I said I know there are plenty of other ways to have kids (Mom even mentioned the surrogate, but the concept bothers me sort of...I can't quite explain why). I'm terribly optimistic about the whole affair: I firmly believe I might get a surprise and become pregnant after the first try (if I'm lucky), or at least a short time later.

On the subject of crying; I can't stand it either. I noticed that whenever I'm in the vicinity of a baby who is crying, I feel entire body go rigid and there's this tingling, panicky sensation that shoots up my back. I wonder though if that will go away when it's my kids I am dealing with...may be I will luck out and not have a meltdown, although I hear it is very likely I might have some or even get those dreaded, "Baby Blues". I certainly hope not, but in any event my Mother is already on standby: "call me", she tells me, "and I'll come racing over for those Grandbabies." She wants them to call her "Graham"...my goodness, she's already got a term of endearment, lol. That's my Mom though :wink:



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22 Nov 2013, 7:46 am

Got my blood tests today. Everything seems fine. I was only a bit curious, that I had no immunity to toxoplasmose. I live in the country, and have contacts to tons of animals, as well that I hugged and played with every flea-posessed, sneezy farmcat before. Just as our farmneighbor fertilizes 2-3 times a year, our shared border until 3 feet wide with the "good organic fertilizer" ^^ but "sadly" none of that ever infected me with Toxoplasmose. But out of this, I think, that if I have not been infected during all that time that I never cared for it, then it cant be very spreaded around here. So it would be very unlikely, that I will now get it in the 9 months, when I will mostly avoid having contact with "suspicious" animals, and my partner will do the cat toilette. Additional for our cats getting fresh infected, it was necessary for them to eat raw flesh in form of mice or birds, and the malecat has no teeth, so he only plays and kills mice. (And is unable to catch birds.) And our younger, female cat from the shelter, is an half oriental bastard, according to our veterinary, so she lacks almost every kind of underneath "wool-fur" that origin and local cat posess in winter, which means the season of winter is not existing for her, she only knows late spring, summer, early autumn and radiator season. ^^

Got again a nice "sonar"-pic, and its now 1,56 cm (= 2/3 american `` ? or as much as a thumb is broad). Doktor tried again to show me the heartbeat, but I am sadly to do so on my own, but I am sufficient with him seeing it. ^^ And I feel as well a bit bloated right now, since about a week, I have some troubles with the poo stuff. Before we get into serious medication, doctor recommended me to do good old stuff like raspled linseed with caster oil.... yummieh-yummieh. ^^

And dont know if its because of the uterus/plazenta getting bigger or because of me being bloated, because of the digestive problems, but the lower part of the carseat-belt, really starts to annoy me.



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28 Nov 2013, 7:31 am

Great combination: Getting sensitive to intensive smells before christmas.

Working beside a factory thats producing roasted nuts and spices.

Smells as if my head was inside of a box full with fresh christmas cookies. ^^

Usually I love it when they are roasting, but actually its pretty "burp".



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01 Dec 2013, 1:01 am

I hope to be a father some day but not today but when that time comes i would love to have a mixed baby!


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04 Dec 2013, 1:31 am

I used to feel disgusted at the thought of having children, but I've since warmed up to the idea.



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04 Dec 2013, 5:41 am

I refuse to get pregnant because I feel personally responsible for overpopulation and global warming. However, I will eventually adopt children who need love. Possibly special needs, but probably not white children. The reason is black children are less likely to get adopted. People seem to only want white babies. :[



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05 Dec 2013, 4:14 am

Schneekugel: Poor you! Personally, I think I'd enjoy such smells, but then, nothing is predictable about how you respond to stimuli when pregnant.

Sorry I've been MIA. School has been very demanding, as has Little One. I am still rather sleepy more often than not. 12 weeks now :D


Bleh12345: Aww! That's so sweet! It's necessary that people want to, or choose to adopt, and I respect those that can, it's just not an option I think would work for me. So you totally rock :D


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06 Dec 2013, 6:03 am

Its 10th week for me now, I am again a bit afraid of the detailed ultra-sonar test, that I will have to do in twelfth week. So they do a very detailed ultra-sonar, to prove that the organs and brain have developed well, if legs and arms are normally developing and so on. And I am afraid of our family christmas celebration, because if everything goes well at the test, my partner wants to announce the news to his family before christmas, and they are more of the extroverted-cheerleader kind, which makes me very afraid of their reactions. (So there wont be bad reactions in the way of someone having bad mood, but they are so....socializing and en-sharing their emotions, and touchy and so on....*eek -> run* ) So to be confronted with them in that great amount at once, really scares me.

And before christmas sale already offered me some cheap "jeans-style"-leggins with elastic waist....^^ So you dont mention it with the eye, but my normal trousers are getting a bit tight at the belly. :)



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07 Dec 2013, 11:26 am

I hope to be father as soon as possible, I am 20 years old and I hope to find a girl who wants to have childs at a young age.

We have a VERY serious problem of natality in Spain :/



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07 Dec 2013, 11:27 am

I hope to be father as soon as possible, I am 20 years old and I hope to find a girl who wants to have childs at a young age.

We have a VERY serious problem of natality in Spain :/