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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Just diagnosed and feeling confused |
| Nades |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2020, 5:21 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 1,466
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| You are correct indeed, nothing has changed at all and that's not a bad thing, it's who you always were. Being diagnosed is closure more than anything else and being able to put a name to what you have allows you to find others like you. This website for example is full of similar people. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is autism becoming infantalised? |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2020, 5:04 pm
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Replies: 293
Views: 7,966
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| PS you are looking at a socialist. Fantastic. Proud to be one. That's only an insult in one country on earth and maybe in a few backwards villages elsewhere. You are looking like a capitalist. You are the one who started this by implying that anyone who can't get by in the current system is 'infant... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is autism becoming infantalised? |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2020, 4:57 pm
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Replies: 293
Views: 7,966
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| I think there's some truth on both sides of the coin. Personally, to a large extent I simply avoid mainstream society because in my experience it's often just too hard and painful for me to stay afloat in it - I can usually get by without standing out as too weird, but applying all the necessary &q... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is autism becoming infantalised? |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2020, 4:42 pm
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Replies: 293
Views: 7,966
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| PS you are looking at a socialist. Fantastic. Proud to be one. That's only an insult in one country on earth and maybe in a few backwards villages elsewhere. You are looking like a capitalist. You are the one who started this by implying that anyone who can't get by in the current system is 'infant... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is autism becoming infantalised? |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2020, 3:23 pm
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Replies: 293
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| Um... no. The suggestion was that autistic people need to adapt to society. I was the only one arguing against that BS. It doesn't make you superior to anyone else simply because you have a job. This kind of capitalist rhetoric pushes me in the other direction tbh. The spectrum is a massive place a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is autism becoming infantalised? |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2020, 2:31 pm
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Replies: 293
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| I think all it does is make the stigma worse by people wrongly assuming autistic people can only cope in society if society conforms to them. This reminds me of this Ted Talk I saw. The autistic speaker is arguing that society needs to adapt for autistic people, rather than the other way around. A ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is autism becoming infantalised? |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2020, 12:02 pm
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Replies: 293
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| I imagine to most of you it's no mystery that Autism has some degree of a "childlike" stigma to it. Indeed, most of the social groups for people with autism are mostly focused on parents with autistic children. All the social media groups relating to autism I have joined are almost exclusi... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: can't keep a job |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2017, 12:25 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,106
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| but it's clear that his general behavior- way of walking, speaking, his interests, get him no respect, no matter what his education and capabilities are. One of the things my husband does which has always worked well for him is use his "autism blankness" to his advantage. If someone is me... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: can't keep a job |
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Posted: 24 Jan 2017, 1:52 pm
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Replies: 10
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| Some people can pick up on autistic mannerisms. Unfortunately, it is still socially acceptable for people to discriminate against people who are autistic or who seem autistic. First, I would advise you to try to pinpoint which actions you are displaying that the people in authority over you are pic... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Discrimination - So Apparently We Make Awful Parents Too |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2017, 12:11 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 3,018
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| I am more concerned with the off chance that the autistic condition will be passed down. That's the same thing I worry about. I think a lot of aspies make great parents, possible exceptional even, but it's the hereditary aspect that makes me not want to have kids. I have had a terrible time coping ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: To all the bitter men |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2017, 12:42 pm
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Replies: 263
Views: 13,809
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| Non-Asperger. Interestingly she has renal disease/kidney failure. Despite this I have recently learned it is a terrible idea to say "Hey, I'm helping you out with my disability, can you help me with mine?" I'm finally, finally learning that true love is given without obligated return. I g... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: To all the bitter men |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2017, 12:33 pm
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Replies: 263
Views: 13,809
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| "I started trying to approach women in various social situations and met nothing but rejection and ridicule because of my slightly odd personality." This is pretty much the reason why a lot of people with Aspergers dislike women. Fortunately I have a good few female friends so I think its... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: To all the bitter men |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2017, 11:25 am
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Replies: 263
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| I get where you are coming from Nades. That's why I was so reluctant to try to date in the past. One thing I found that works is to be upfront. I told my most recent (current? Complicated.). relationship at the very beginning of my diagnosis. I don't think she fully understands or even accepts it, ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: To all the bitter men |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2017, 11:11 am
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Replies: 263
Views: 13,809
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| "I started trying to approach women in various social situations and met nothing but rejection and ridicule because of my slightly odd personality." This is pretty much the reason why a lot of people with Aspergers dislike women. Fortunately I have a good few female friends so I think its ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Still haven't found a girlfriend |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2017, 6:38 pm
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Replies: 381
Views: 18,426
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| I mean i don't know but i think i would want to finish college first this year before thinking about driving. Can i ask about my dad, him and my mum split up about 14 years ago, i don't see him often but he still treats me like a little child sometimes. how could i show him im not his baby boy anym... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Still haven't found a girlfriend |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2017, 6:12 pm
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Replies: 381
Views: 18,426
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| I don't know, maybe in a few months time i might feel differently about driving, at the moment all i want to do is go out and try to meat people. All i really want is girls to be friends with me, a gf would be a bonus and its what my dream is but i would like to be able to take a girl to the cinema... |
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