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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Feeling disconnected from other people. |
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Posted: 16 Nov 2011, 9:22 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 2,208
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| I am wondering if anyone else here has experienced this feeling of disconnection from other people. It is a very strange feeling and I don't quite know what to do about it. I am married and I have a few friends but on the whole I feel like I am disconnected and not a part of anything. When I try to ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Being ignored, dismissed, and disrespected by other people. |
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Posted: 19 Oct 2011, 2:35 pm
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Replies: 41
Views: 8,569
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| So it appears that it is necessary for us to adapt to the world. The question is, how do we do this? I am fortunate to have some local autism resources at my disposal so I am hoping that people who are familiar with autism would be able to tell me how to go about adapting to the world. I think I am ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Being ignored, dismissed, and disrespected by other people. |
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Posted: 14 Oct 2011, 1:38 pm
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Replies: 41
Views: 8,569
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| I don't think that people owe me friendship. I just want to know how I can present myself to others in a way that does not make people think that they can take advantage of me or does not make them think I am half of a person who does not deserve to be treated as any other person would be treated. A... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Being ignored, dismissed, and disrespected by other people. |
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Posted: 12 Oct 2011, 1:13 pm
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Replies: 41
Views: 8,569
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| I realize that we can't control other people and we can't make others like us. That said, I have noticed that other people are very quick to dismiss me as a person. I have seen people talking to other people and although they were not friends with the other person and they did not socialize with eac... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Unable to find a niche. |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2011, 11:40 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,265
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| Hi, I am in my early forties and I it seems like I can't really find a niche anywhere. I do have some interests but apparently I can't connect with other people through them. I like things such as reading and going to plays and I do some volunteer work assisting in an office at a nonprofit organizat... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Being treated like a child as an adult. |
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Posted: 26 May 2011, 9:39 am
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Replies: 52
Views: 44,044
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| I am an adult woman who is 40 but feels like other people treat me like a child. People in my family either talk down to me or ignore me. I may be on the autism spectrum but that does not mean that I am a child. I have about had it with my inlaws who are very condescending toward me. I am not a chil... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Balancing marriage and friendships. |
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Posted: 24 May 2011, 9:38 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 1,905
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| I have recently gotten married (around six months ago) and I love my husband dearly. I am forty, by the way. My husband and I have no children nor do we plan to have any children. I do not have large numbers of friends but the ones I do have are important to me. I have made an effort to maintain the... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: One Sided Friendship? |
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Posted: 12 May 2011, 8:15 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 2,621
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| I am in a situation in which I am wondering if the other person is not really interested in being my friend. Whenever I contact her via Facebook she never responds when I post on her wall. I sent her an Easter card and she did not thank me or acknowledge the card when all the other people I sent car... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Being a nice person is not enough. |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2011, 8:13 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 5,321
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| I have tried my entire life to be a good and nice person but I realize that it's not enough just to be nice to people to make connections with them. I don't want to become a mean person who doesn't care about anybody else at all. In many cases kindness has been seen by people as a weakness. Has anyo... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Strange comment from an NT relative |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2011, 10:22 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,461
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| I was talking to my sister who is an NT. I told her that it seems that everybody likes her. She said that not everyone actually likes her but it is easier for people to drop the politeness around me and she said she doesn't know why that is. I don't pick up on social cues very well but I do sense th... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Taking a situation personally |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2011, 8:54 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,581
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| Hi, There is one factor no one else though to bring up. Was this a very dangerous place to cross the street? As in, was this a very busy road with no crosswalk and light to cross at the light? If so, then I think you would be correct in not wanting to cross the street. However, in this case probably... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Social mistake; Can I fix it after the fact? |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2010, 9:35 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 2,380
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| I recently attended a gathering at someone's house for a baby that had just been baptized. I got married very recently (about a month and a half ago). At the get together there was a woman who is friends with some of the people who were invited to the wedding. She was not invited to the wedding. I d... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Trying to come to terms with family rejection. |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2010, 2:17 pm
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Replies: 46
Views: 15,423
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| Hi, Recently the holidays have made it difficult not to focus on the fact that I have been rejected by most of my family with the exception of my two sisters and one cousin. Unfortunately my two sisters and the one cousin I get along with very well live in other states so I dont' get to see them as ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Strange family situation. |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2010, 8:53 am
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Replies: 1
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| I have an aunt and a cousin who live in the same town that I live in. I was invited over to my aunt and cousin's house a few times and things seemed to go O.K. But my cousin refuses to speak to me on the telephone at all, claming that she's "not a telephone person". This is nonsense since she has to... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Assertiveness and teaching people how to treat you. |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2010, 1:38 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,863
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| I have been doing a lot of reading lately about being assertive and "teaching people how to treat you." It has been said that people treat other people poorly because they allow it. I don't think that this excuses violent or cruel behavior in other people. However, in relationships with other people... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Marriage and friendship dynamics. |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2010, 10:49 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 1,075
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| Hi, I will soon be getting married (in just a little over a week) and I realize that all of my girlfriends are single. I don't have a lot of friends, so they are very important to me and are in many ways like family for me. I have of course been very focused on getting ready for marriage and the wed... |
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