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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism? Do you consider it a curse? |
| sarahstilettos |
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Posted: 18 Aug 2008, 5:31 pm
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| It's not useful to think of it as either. On the one hand, if you tell yourself you're cursed, it tends to be a self-fulfilling prophecy. On the other hand, it just doesn't fit to consider myself blessed. It would seem a bit unrealistic, not to mention pompous . Consider it as a fact, like being sho... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People confiding in you they think they have aspergers |
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Posted: 18 Aug 2008, 5:27 pm
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Replies: 12
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| Or have them look it up and read more about it. Sometimes they are quite frighteningly well read on it already... Probably more than I am - I never read any books, even around the time of my diagnosis. The very social chap actually has a child with classic autism, and has worked in a college for yo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People confiding in you they think they have aspergers |
| sarahstilettos |
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Posted: 18 Aug 2008, 4:45 pm
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Replies: 12
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| Just wondered if this was something that happened to anyone else or not. Recently I've been slightly more 'out of the closet' about my diagnosis, although it's still a long way from being general knowledge. Anyway, as people find out about me, they often start confiding in me that they think they mi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Self-Injury |
| sarahstilettos |
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Posted: 18 Aug 2008, 4:25 pm
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Replies: 27
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| I haven't done anything serious for months and months. To be honest, I stopped because I saw that certain improvements I wanted in my life were only going to happen if I started giving the appearance of being 'together'. Or rather, that motivated me and I started to find ways around it and did CBT a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Help: Aspie/Autie Sensory Experiences in the Environment??? |
| sarahstilettos |
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Posted: 18 Aug 2008, 4:16 pm
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| this is really impossible to write down a comprehensive response to, although i think it's an interesting question. The one thing I've really been aware of recently is that I like to be boxed in on as many sides as possible. Sometimes at work I pull the drawers in my desk out around me because it ju... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Humour and autism? |
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Posted: 18 Aug 2008, 4:12 pm
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Replies: 34
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| guess people think this because we often have trouble 'getting' traditional jokes or even realising when someone has made a joke. I often watch other autistic people giving overly serious responses in situations where it's not expected, too. I guess I do that myself sometimes. Generally, more of our... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: British study says more and more people want to stay single |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2008, 3:26 pm
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Replies: 32
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| I think most people just consider it all harmless fun, in fact I'm pretty much certain they do. I mean, this is how a lot of people pass the day at work, it justs adds a bit of interest. I'm quite sensitive and touchy myself but even I accept that people flirting with me very rarely means they want... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: British study says more and more people want to stay single |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2008, 2:42 pm
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Replies: 32
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| I'm casually on the lookout, and in the meantime I'd rather be single than mess about when I know it's not going anywhere. Then explain this: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt67688.html Read the bit where it says 'I'm casually on the lookout' again. That thread is just about wanting to flirt, really... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Singlism- Discrimination against the singles. |
| sarahstilettos |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2008, 2:23 pm
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Replies: 24
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| American article but it's exactly the same in the UK. Our goverment just made some tax changes that will have a really bad impact on low paid workers such as myself. We were told to apply for 'working family tax credits' instead, har har har. Politicians always talk about wanting to make things bett... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: British study says more and more people want to stay single |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2008, 2:15 pm
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Replies: 32
Views: 6,722
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| I'm casually on the lookout, and in the meantime I'd rather be single than mess about when I know it's not going anywhere. Then explain this: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt67688.html Read the bit where it says 'I'm casually on the lookout' again. That thread is just about wanting to flirt, really... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: British study says more and more people want to stay single |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2008, 11:11 am
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Replies: 32
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| I can definitely sympathise with people who deliberately stay single. I guess I'm about half way to being one of them. Relationships in themselves are not the thing. Relationships in themselves are pretty awful - 'dramatic' and time consuming or even abusive at one end of the scale and simply tediou... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Another thread about inept flirting |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2008, 10:48 am
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Replies: 17
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| If I remember gyms rightly, some kinds of weightlifting require a spotter - someone to make sure you don't drop heavy things on your own neck.. perhaps you can ask target guy to do this for you. I don't really do proper weightlifting but I'm sure I can find some really inane thing to 'need help' wi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Woman post your tips for guys about dating and relationships |
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Posted: 02 Jun 2008, 3:42 pm
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Replies: 52
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| I like men who actually like women. I mean really like women in general, enjoy their company and think most of them are intelligent and good natured beings. I only really became aware of how much that means to me after being on this forum for a while, but I guess I always saw him having female frien... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Facebook makes me depressed... |
| sarahstilettos |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2008, 3:19 pm
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Replies: 27
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| The thing you have to remember about sites like Facebook, Reunion.com, Classmates.com, MySpace, etc., is that most people who post there only put their best aspects forward. No one wants to paint themselves in a negative manner. For instance, on Classmates.com, I put this as my bio: I am a ten-time... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Danciquette--More queries from EA |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2008, 3:09 pm
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Replies: 3
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| The only advice I can offer as to the dancing is to not be too stiff and not worry about it too much. If she has fun, you did well, and if you're having fun she probably will too. If you're not she definitely won't. If you dancing is normally very flamboyant you might want to reign that in a bit - s... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Post Old Music you like!! ! |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2008, 2:43 pm
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Replies: 52
Views: 5,134
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| [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hCSPf5Viwd0[/youtube] |
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