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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I thought at 63 I finally masked well: why am I so upset? |
| Ulf |
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Posted: 18 Dec 2022, 5:26 pm
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| Thank you everyone for your comments. Really appreciated that you took time to reply. I’d like to be able to say I’m fine with me, and most of the time I am, but just froze time to time I get knocked off the bike, sometimes it’s surprise, sometimes it’s unequal power, sometimes it’s just that “you’r... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I thought at 63 I finally masked well: why am I so upset? |
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Posted: 17 Dec 2022, 11:49 pm
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| Thanks Skibum, Really appreciated your post thank you.I guess it made me feel uncovered, and yes, it’s clear she knew the kind of signals from her professional expertise. I think to answer your last question, there’s still that little boy’s voice inside me somewhere which can’t understand why he’s d... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I thought at 63 I finally masked well: why am I so upset? |
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Posted: 17 Dec 2022, 11:36 pm
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| Thank you both, Daniel W and Juliette, I appreciated each of your comments very much. I’m lucky enough in my second marriage to have met an NT woman who met me as I was. I wasn’t diagnosed until some time after the end of my first marriage and for a long time believed that its failure was my fault, ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I thought at 63 I finally masked well: why am I so upset? |
| Ulf |
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Posted: 17 Dec 2022, 9:47 pm
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| In a one on one business conversation last week, after about an hour the other party, who is trained in working with families and parenting made a kind and non-aggressive comment making it clear that she recognised that I had ASD. Now I am fairly high functioning, but had a very difficult childhood ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People have their "personality colors" or animal forms |
| Ulf |
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Posted: 10 Aug 2022, 12:55 am
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| A really interesting question Irulan! As the trend of answers is heading, I would also think of your account as a form of synaesthesia. I tend to experience sound to taste synaesthesia mostly with the odd flashes of sound to colour. Makes music interesting lol. People's voices also tend to have a ta... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Finding Zoom videoconferencing exhausting? Me too! |
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Posted: 24 Apr 2020, 10:20 pm
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| Since the big lockdown, we’ve been Zoom videoconferencing with the kids, mine scattered around three countries and hers all in one country. Ever time I’m ready to finish far sooner than my lovely (NT but very attuned and understanding) partner. She has observed to me that she sees that I’m exhausted... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Anyone else feel angry for not getting an early diagnosis? |
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Posted: 19 Apr 2020, 6:23 pm
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| My mother used to tell me I looked and acted ret*d but she never sought any help. She would just say "don't do that" and get embarrassed by me. That hurt a lot because I didn't understand why I was such a disappointment. I'm sorry you had to go through this. At least my mom only thought I... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Is it possible to have good social skills? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2020, 3:47 am
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Replies: 15
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| I've tried very hard in my life to "mask" and mimic, and I think I am fairly successful at it, so long as I remain pretty quiet and don't say something "odd". It is terribly exhausting for me, though. Even with people I feel comfortable around, I can last about 90 minutes max in... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: 23 emotions people feel (not just AS people) yet can't name |
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Posted: 28 Mar 2020, 3:43 pm
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| That’s so coool. My three current favourites from other languages but I’ll leave you the fun of discovery .... Hiraeth: Welsh Saudade: Portuguese Duende: Spanish I guess choosing those first two at least tells that I’m half a world away from my homeland but not really unhappy in my new land .... i g... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Social skills versus social analytical acting - diagnose? |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2020, 10:19 pm
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| Like Rascal77s I would not have a view on diagnosing anyone. Just to say that I was diagnosed when living outside Scandinavia, was always the same and like your partner was excellent at masking. I grew up in the pre-ASD/Aspergers world of the 1960s and my parents sought support for me as a child to ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: ASD and the dynamics of group conversation |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2020, 2:43 am
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| I was sitting outside a cafe in the sun (before CV of course) with one of my very close and very dear friends. I was watching a group of teenagers at a bigger table in front of me, trying to work out how they knew when to speak and all that ... BTW this has been a lifelong puzzle since I always seem... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Anyone else with Synesthaesia? |
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Posted: 07 Mar 2020, 6:49 am
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| Hmmm ... I didn’t really realise i had it for a while. My daughters piano teacher had tone to color synaesthesia and that Was what I thought it was for a long time. I’ve always had sound to taste but just thought that wa my general weirdness even after I was diagnosed with AS. Like most of us I’m ea... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Newly assessed Aspiewoman! Just diagnosed at age 53. |
| Ulf |
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Posted: 06 Mar 2020, 2:58 pm
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Replies: 15
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| Welcome to you, testing with fire: I'm a newbie here on WP too. Its a sad fact that those of us who reside on this band of the spectrum and whose birthdates are in the second half of the 20th C missed out on diagnosis due to the fact that it was so little known about. Certainly the paediatrician my ... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Introducing Ulf - newly arrived to this planet! |
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Posted: 06 Mar 2020, 1:27 am
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Replies: 10
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Introducing Ulf - newly arrived to this planet! |
| Ulf |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2020, 7:56 pm
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Replies: 10
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| Hi folks, I've been orbiting this planet for the last week or so, and decided to come down and stay for a while. I've known for a fair while I was an Aspie, and then had the diagnosis to make sure I wasn't over-intellectualising it. I chose Ulf as my username since it means wolf in one of my cradle-... |
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