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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Early autism diagnosis=no personality |
| BugsBunnyFan |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2024, 4:38 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 4,837
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| That’s what it feels like to me. I feel like I was never able to develop a real personality. If I do anything, it’s instantly just labeled as autism. Doesn’t feel like a real personality. So when people ask me to describe myself I never can. Especially if it’s personality traits. People give me sha... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Early autism diagnosis=no personality |
| BugsBunnyFan |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2024, 8:18 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 4,837
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| That’s what it feels like to me. I feel like I was never able to develop a real personality. If I do anything, it’s instantly just labeled as autism. Doesn’t feel like a real personality. So when people ask me to describe myself I never can. Especially if it’s personality traits. People give me shal... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Do you prefer hiding your gender online? |
| BugsBunnyFan |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2024, 2:15 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 14,204
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| Most people are not very aware of gender issues in detail, although many people aspire to be so because of political correctness, or because they themselves are gender non-conforming in some way. It's not surprising that some people will treat others differently because of this kind of thing, even ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Do you prefer hiding your gender online? |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2024, 2:06 pm
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Replies: 14
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| Most people are not very aware of gender issues in detail, although many people aspire to be so because of political correctness, or because they themselves are gender non-conforming in some way. It's not surprising that some people will treat others differently because of this kind of thing, even ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Do you prefer hiding your gender online? |
| BugsBunnyFan |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2024, 12:20 pm
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Replies: 14
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| People do make assumptions about gender for sure. It's not something I give much thought to, however. I find people see me way differently when they know my gender. Even though people aren’t necessarily hostile when they see me as female, I find I’m seen more like a whole human being when they assu... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Do you prefer hiding your gender online? |
| BugsBunnyFan |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2024, 9:50 am
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Replies: 14
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| I feel like people often understand me way better when they don’t know my gender or think I’m a guy. I marked my gender as nonbinary here at first. It drew too much attention to my gender, so I changed it to female. I experience the outside world as a cis woman, but I don’t think my gender defines e... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How interesting do you think your life is? |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2024, 2:37 pm
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Replies: 28
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| I sort of conflate the two because special interests or stuff in the moment don’t make any difference. If people ask me what I did and I mentioned that I drew worm characters all day or studied Finnish, no one cares. They somewhat humor me, but they’re meaningless special interests. They have no rea... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How interesting do you think your life is? |
| BugsBunnyFan |
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Posted: 30 Dec 2023, 3:58 pm
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Replies: 28
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| I've usually found enough interesting things to do and think about to keep my life from getting boring, but sometimes I run out of material and then I can hardly stand the ennuie of it all until I find something to do. I'm rarely interested in the details of other people's lives unless I happen kno... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How interesting do you think your life is? |
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Posted: 30 Dec 2023, 2:17 pm
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Replies: 28
Views: 21,346
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| Interesting to talk about or interesting to me? When I talk to someone I want to talk about the things that they are thinking about, and the things I've been thinking about. We might also mention something we did that day or that month, but that's never the most interesting thing about anyone's lif... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How interesting do you think your life is? |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2023, 7:05 pm
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Replies: 28
Views: 21,346
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funeralxempire wrote: 2 gang knows what life's like.
I’m guessing that’s about average for an autistic person. Even though special interests are interesting, they don’t make your life more interesting. Especially to other people. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How interesting do you think your life is? |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2023, 6:50 pm
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Replies: 28
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autisticelders wrote: pretty subjective, isn't it?
Guess it is, but my life is objectively less interesting than the average person’s life. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you heard of "malicious compliance"? |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2023, 6:31 pm
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Replies: 55
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| I've heard of "pathological demand avoidance" in reference to autism / adhd. That's where you won't do something specifically because it's a demand. Although that's different from malicious compliance. I’m pretty sure I have that condition. I often can’t do something because it’s a demand... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How interesting do you think your life is? |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2023, 5:11 pm
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Replies: 28
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| By interesting, I mainly mean easy to talk about. It’s not necessarily good or bad. I’d rate the average person on the street about a five. Not the most interesting, but it’s not too bad for them to talk about their life. They can talk about their job, their family, significant other, activities the... |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: Do I have to pretend to be super political? |
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Posted: 25 Dec 2023, 8:18 pm
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Replies: 9
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| It seems like the local LGBT community where I live is super political. I’d describe myself as a wishy washy liberal, which is apparently a red flag. Most people I meet tend to describe themselves as communists and anarchists. I just feel super wishy washy on issues they have a strong stance on. Usu... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you make friends when people think you’re weird |
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Posted: 20 Dec 2023, 1:41 am
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Replies: 23
Views: 49,282
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| To add to the many sensible suggestions already made ... I find it helps (and am currently working on this!) to reduce one's barriers and make oneself vulnerable. People tend to get on better when they perceive something to connect to / something that is relatable. As well as of course contexts and... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Mango flavored gum |
| BugsBunnyFan |
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Posted: 14 Dec 2023, 5:56 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 3,118
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| I just made up an analogy that explains why I hate being categorized. Let’s imagine I like mangos. Maybe I’m super obsessed with them, maybe I just like to eat them once in a while. Since I like mangos, someone decides to get me mango flavored gum. I think most people can agree that doesn’t sound gr... |
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