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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: long term grudges |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: Yesterday, 3:02 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 4,940
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Quote: Turning the other cheek and trying to wipe one's mind clean of retaliatory urges is mostly unhealthy
This is rare but mostly true advice, thanks for this, and your other points. Good stuff. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: long term grudges |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 07 May 2024, 3:54 pm
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Replies: 27
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| I can forgive people for small stuff, but really bad continuous behaviour that is also toxic to society and that hurts me over a period of a year or more gets into my bad books. In this case I know it hurts me to feel angry, but it also keeps me motivated to explore the why, build my defenses and ad... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: long term grudges |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 07 May 2024, 3:48 pm
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Replies: 27
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| I have held grudges against the people who bullied me during my childhood and teen years. By sheer coincidence, all of those people have either died, gone to prison, become homeless, or contracted some form of dementia. :shrug: Bahaha I appreciate your vindictiveness sometimes fnord, hilariously d... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: so stressed need some support |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 07 May 2024, 3:18 pm
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Replies: 2
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| At the end of the day applications always depend on others after you send the form or do the interview, so being stressed wont help. In other words, focus on what you can control, sleep, eat well, and send in more applications. I personally was in your situation a year ago, and I just gave up comple... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Your Personal Stories of Malicious Compliance |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 06 May 2024, 2:40 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 219
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| I don't support this strategy unless absolutely necessary and you have tried honest confrontation, since it is passive aggressive. I have been on the receiving end of this when asking for basic respect of need for sleep and a clean communal environment, and it just came across as really immature, na... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: When people say ‘here if you need to talk about it’ |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 05 May 2024, 10:03 am
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Replies: 23
Views: 613
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| I guess they are offering free emotional support, to a limited degree depending on the relationship. Sometimes it means they cut you off and hug you then leave, other times they listen for a bit and offer basic problem solving and empathy. In general for me I do talk through things, but honestly it ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: America is a nightmare |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 05 May 2024, 9:59 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 271
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That sounds really bad. Can you become a mountain hermit?
What is project 25?
Edit:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Project_2025
Critics of Project 2025 have described it as an authoritarian Christian nationalist movement[16] and a path for the United States to become an autocracy.
jeeessh. |
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Forum: News and Current Events Topic: Aspergers and Psychopathy: There is a Great Big Difference |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 05 May 2024, 9:57 am
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Replies: 21
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| Some say Bin Laden and Hitler had Aspergers, but do you know what those who say that get confused with ASD and Psychopathy. There is a massive difference and those who do say it are just ignorant which really annoys me. I got so angry when I heard the news saying about Adam Lanza having Aspergers, ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you get over cutting people off? |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 03 May 2024, 7:04 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 324
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Thanks, that's a nice perspective. I suppose you have calibrated yourself pretty well and can filter
people earlier on. I agree with you about closure. People are too complicated to replace. |
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Forum: News and Current Events Topic: London Sword Attack |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 02 May 2024, 1:20 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 424
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| How often does this happen? Sword swinging lunatics in the UK? Once a century? Once a century in a country of 60 million plus people?: Only if you sample in the last 300 years lol, before then I guess the rate of sword swinging lunatics increases dramatically, maybe this poor man was a time travell... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you get over cutting people off? |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 02 May 2024, 12:58 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 324
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| For me I am way too forgiving, and I have let a lot of people take advantage of that, and spent way too long in sh***y relationships. But now i have a lot of internal pain from cutting people off. I think its because I still think about them and questions we thought about. I guess I worry that they ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you deal with being silenced when you are right? |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 30 Apr 2024, 4:59 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 794
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| Yeah, thats part of it, online silencing can be pretty harsh, and there are a lot of nutcase trolls online also. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you deal with being silenced when you are right? |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 30 Apr 2024, 4:43 pm
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Replies: 24
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Not a bad idea..
well I interact with a diverse bunch many of whom are very sarcastic themselves. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you deal with being silenced when you are right? |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 30 Apr 2024, 4:15 pm
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Replies: 24
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| Many times i say a logical thing that is somehow offensive, odd, maybe edgy but right. Sometimes the response, particularly from groups is to ignore me, or tell me I am silly. Trouble is when it is for semi-serious stuff concerning myself and I am proposing a practical solution they do the same thin... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: China, Russia, Iran, and the ressurection of empires |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2024, 5:32 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 219
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| Many Americans seem to think it's perfectly okay when they do it but not when anyone else does. can confirm from experience, two of my american friends criticised the historical british empire, but when I pointed out their own complicity in current acts, just as bad, through working at US corporati... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What is one difference between your thinking and NT thinking |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2024, 4:34 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 886
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| NTs tend to be casuals in their interests. I think it is socially rewarded to be this way. Being more knowledgeable or interested than others could make you seem "different" in a negative light. There is another reason why autistics are more likely to delve deep into their interests. It i... |
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