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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Break-up: Aspie style!! |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2012, 12:54 pm
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Replies: 164
Views: 46,578
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| my aspie and I had 8 months of no contact. we reunited in July and have had a lovely romance and he dumped me again last night saying he is not feeling romantic or sexual. we have been on and off for years but I can't go through this abandonment again. I love him so much but I fear years or decades ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you get along with "hippie" types?? |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2012, 11:05 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 3,599
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| i'm a hippie type and my bff is an aspie. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: friends then lovers then he shut down completely |
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Posted: 05 Aug 2012, 11:47 am
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Replies: 120
Views: 22,314
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| @eve- tell me more about the guy you want to dump? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: my as bf abruptly stopped talking to me! what to do |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2012, 1:17 pm
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Replies: 46
Views: 5,959
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| Dump him, for your your own sake. That's the only advice I can give. I've loved someone with AS for 3 painful years, and he has done this sort of thing all the time. The record was not speaking to me for 4 months. Here is how Aspies work: If they don't know what to do/say--they just do nothing. I h... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does anyone else feel unable to communicate feelings of love |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2012, 1:08 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 1,782
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| Being told "I love you" and being able to trust/believe that is one of life's greatest gifts. I have been unable to trust when my Aspie says "I love you" or more frequently, "I love you, too" to me because he has wavered so much in saying he can feel it/knows what it means and then taking all that b... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My relationship with an NT, is it doomed or should I try aga |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2012, 1:01 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 3,029
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| THTony, I'm an NT woman and I have been involved on and off with an Aspie guy. Be grateful that you can actually feel love for this woman. My Aspie says he doesn't even know what love is. He uses the words "I love you" or "I love you, too" but he doesn't even know what it really means. Our relations... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Is it worse for Aspies to have high self-awareness? |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2012, 12:44 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,286
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| My Aspie's high level of self awareness/self reflectiveness/ability to empathize/forgive, etc.. is the only reason we were able to get back together after 8 months of no contact. It's a curse at times but it's so much more of a gift. When he is in the head space to do emotional work, he's the most a... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I want to commit suicide |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2012, 12:41 pm
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Replies: 46
Views: 6,741
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| @OP- do you live in the USA? sounds like a 6 month stay in a buddhist monastery on a work/study program might be a good idea. tons of free places around the country to do internships/seva (service) in exchange for food and housing. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What to do when you feel you're on the verge of a meltdown? |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2012, 12:32 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 1,012
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| How is your nutrition? Are you eating well? Sleeping enough? Can you put on any ear protection to drown out some sound? What has worked for you in the past in terms of self-soothing? I'm NT and I feel burned out, shut down, exhausted also on many levels. For me, the worse I eat (sugar, processed foo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Letting people down |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2012, 1:50 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,505
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| I'm NT and nothing bugs me more than people ignoring attempts at communication- personally and in business. When my communications are not returned, I find it inconsiderate (rude), unprofessional, and annoying. I have to set new boundaries with my Aspie friend. I give him a one hour grace period to ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What does "I love you" mean (to you)? |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2012, 12:46 pm
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Replies: 41
Views: 4,221
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@green shadow...
was it that someone said ILY to you and then they betrayed you like that or is that YOU said ILY to them and YOU betrayed them like that? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Break-up: Aspie style!! |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2012, 10:34 am
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Replies: 164
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| This is so sad. I lost my friend, roommate, ex-lover, etc...when my Aspie just DELETED ME after 3 years and too many conflicts of wants/needs. He just walked away as if those entire 3 years never happened and has made zero attempt to contact me. I am respecting his deletion and not contacting him ei... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: The lyrics in this song really reminds me of Aspies. |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2011, 11:49 am
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Replies: 2
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Autism and fetishes |
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Posted: 10 Aug 2011, 5:17 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 241
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| My Aspie friend is into locking spiked leather collars, wrist cuffs, ankle cuffs, and "yiff" (furry hentai porn). I think it's pretty sad he prefers cartoon animal sadomasochistic porn to having a real relationship with a real human being but whatever.... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Sex and Consent (also in Love and Dating) |
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Posted: 10 Aug 2011, 5:15 pm
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Replies: 2
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| All good questions. I filed a professional complaint against her to the licensing board. He agreed to file also and then refused stating he was tired of dealing with it. He retreated into his special interested instead. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Sex and Consent |
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Posted: 10 Aug 2011, 5:12 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 6,250
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| My roommate agreed it would be a good idea to file a complaint with the licensing board for mental health workers. I filed one against her since I was a witness to alot of her unprofessionalism. He decided last night not to file (refused after agreeing) and just spent hours on his special interest i... |
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