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Forum: The Haven Topic: Being a hermit |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2011, 4:57 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,590
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| I am fighting the desire for total hermitude. I have always spent most of my non-working time alone but have always tried to get out and socialize. But this last year of two, it feels so pointless. I can't decide which is better for me though. Should I keep on trying or hole up and pull the trapdoor... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Straight Talk for Women on the Spectrum |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2011, 4:52 pm
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Replies: 140
Views: 36,593
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| Hi, I had to reply because this thread speaks to me. I am a 39 year old woman and it is good to hear from women around my age. I am hitting some personal issues that I don't think younger people could totally relate to. I am self identified but was amazed when I read about aspergers and how closely... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Straight Talk for Women on the Spectrum |
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Posted: 03 Sep 2011, 6:03 pm
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Replies: 140
Views: 36,593
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| Hi, I had to reply because this thread speaks to me. I am a 39 year old woman and it is good to hear from women around my age. I am hitting some personal issues that I don't think younger people could totally relate to. I am self identified but was amazed when I read about aspergers and how closely ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Coping Mechanism for Switching Between Tasks? |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2011, 7:56 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,378
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| I find it difficult also. What seems to work for me sometimes is just to start doing the next thing. It is hard to explain - if I start thinking about the next thing to do while I am doing the first I get almost a mental paralysis. For instance, I can think about cleaning up the kitchen for hours wh... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Greetings from Rhode Island |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2011, 8:57 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,392
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Hi,
I am a woman from Rhode Island also. What groups are there around here. This is such a small state. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How can I regain hope? |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2011, 9:57 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 624
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| Thank you both for your replies. I do have interests and hobbies, and can spend a lot of time happily alone. I have a good relationship with my sister and am thankful for a lot in my life. I think one problem over the last year or two is that I have really lost hope that I will change. I have always... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How can I regain hope? |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2011, 8:51 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 624
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| I wonder if someone has been in a similar state and has any advice. I am feeling hopeless about ever having friends or a relationship. I haven't always felt hopeless. I have spent many years learning social skills (I know I come across less stiff and formal in person than in writing), worked on my p... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Meeting people through interests? |
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Posted: 24 Jul 2011, 7:47 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 910
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| I have tried the book club thing and also took classes type stuff. I guess what I am trying to find are more people like me because I have reached the point where I can do the light social chit chat stuff but when I do that with most people I still feel such a distance. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Meeting people through interests? |
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Posted: 24 Jul 2011, 5:59 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 910
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| I am in a sort of depression because I have realized that learning social skills will only get me so far with "normal" people. The only people I have really connected to have been more like me. Most of my interests are very solitary, reading, crafts ( I am pretty good figuring out mechanical things)... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: why ppl stop socializing b/c they find out they have Aspy? |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2011, 5:09 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 2,313
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| In my case, what used to get me out and trying to socialize was the hope that things would improve. As my social skills got better, I really thought that I would be able to actually make friends and relate more to people. In the last year or two though, since realizing I probably have aspergers, I h... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: As confidence goes up, social skills go down... |
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Posted: 29 Oct 2010, 10:05 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 2,082
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| It is quite similar for me. I used to think that my problems in finding relationships or friendships would be lessened if I had better social skill and less shyness. Now, I can talk to people quite well and I feel much less hope in having real closeness. I have enough social awareness now that I rea... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is "You'll find love one day" BS? |
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Posted: 20 Jun 2010, 8:18 pm
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Replies: 137
Views: 17,280
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| I have been thinking about this very thing a lot lately. I just turned 38 which is almost 40. I have had several relationships and have been in love but nothing has lasted longer that 1 or 2 years and has never moved past the infatuation stage to planning the future or living together. In between, i... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do you feel like you have advanced socially over time? |
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Posted: 20 Jun 2010, 7:19 am
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Replies: 63
Views: 8,698
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| I have improved my social skills and social awareness quite a bit but paradoxically it has made me feel more lonely. When I was younger, I would talk and talk about whatever my current interest was to someone and never noticed their glazed eyes. I mistook that for connecting with people. Now I notic... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: does anyone have "arts and crafts" obsessions? |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2010, 7:52 pm
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Replies: 107
Views: 22,935
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| When I was a kid, I loved dolls. But not playing with them. The whole point to me was making clothes- sewing, knitting, embroidering, making paper dolls. I hear that SOME people act out human interactions with them but that never occurred to me :) I have had many other craft hobbies: beading clay po... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Bras? |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2010, 7:44 pm
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Replies: 127
Views: 44,052
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| I did not used to wear a bra ( or deodorant ha ha) but wear one now. I have worked in a virtually all male field(plumbing and pipefitting) for 3 or 4 years now and choose bras for understatement- just enough padding that my nipples won't show but not enough that the girls aren't enhanced. |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Aspie women and weight |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2010, 7:38 pm
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Replies: 116
Views: 16,458
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| when I was younger, I used to be very thin. After antidepressants and getting older, I gained quite a bit of weight. Now, I changed how I eat(MUCH less sugar and other carbs, LOTS more fat-makes me much calmer and less depressed) and am off antidepressants and have lost most of it. The funny thing i... |
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