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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Memory issues and inability to multitask |
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Posted: 14 May 2015, 5:02 am
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| I am wondering if anyone suffers form forgetfulness on a daily basis and also whether they feel they can only reatin one bit of information at a time. I realise the answer is probably going to be yes as it's kind of part of the ASD "package". What I really want to know though is how people... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: dealing with anger |
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Posted: 14 May 2015, 4:42 am
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| I am desperately in need of constructive advice as I am having real problems coping with anger and it's destroying my relationships. I get tetchy and burst over seemingly small things. The worst part of it is that I can see the anger coming yet I can't control it, I hope that makes sense. I had a ve... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: future family prospects |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2012, 7:34 am
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Replies: 14
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| came to the horrible conclusion that i will probably not have kids. obviously having kids depends very much on finding a female partner altough i a m not even talking about this. This condition has been a complete hindrance on many of the things i have wanted to do and achieve in my own life. on tha... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Are you unemployed; if so, how does it affect you? |
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Posted: 28 Jan 2012, 7:42 am
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Replies: 61
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| I am lucky enough to have found something I enjoy doing recently: yes "lucky" is often the key word as far as finding employment goes. I can't presonally say I can see the correlation between the prior effort i put into and the success of finding my position. I think autism in the workplace is a dif... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Are aspies into "trashy" girls? |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2011, 5:24 am
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Replies: 55
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i hate "trashy" girls, or trashy boys for that matter. attention-seeking people more like!
while we're on the subject, the best thing i heard a so-called trashy girl did was give skinhead a "BJ" in the Paris catacombs: you couldn't make it up could you! |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: At what age do most Aspies have sex for the very first time? |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2011, 8:19 am
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Replies: 78
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| Me seeing a prostitute for sex? Never! Me neither. But some people would, not that I have anything against people who do but I wouldn't advise doing it, especially for one's first time. :D defnitely. i think its the actual risk rather than the so-called 'stigma'. bear in mind the condom is about 95... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How to flirt |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2011, 8:13 am
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Replies: 10
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as a general philosophy:
put less effort into flirting and worrying about inadequate body language
put more effort into getting involved in contexts where you might meet someone
"put the horse in front of the carriage" |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How to flirt |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2011, 8:10 am
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Replies: 10
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| to be honest, people who want to get "good at flirting" are trying to bite off more than they can chew. and let me be clear on this: i'm not trying to be patronising and harsh, anyone would find flirting in front of a complete stranger difficult. as you mentioned, homer_bob, no one can be sure how t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How to flirt |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2011, 7:48 am
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Replies: 10
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| yes online dating is not ideal for meeting people (apart from a fling and even that's hard) has anyone on WP looked into meetup.com: i've joined it about two weeks ago and its changed my life i should mention that meetup.com is NOT a dating website, more a friendship website: it gets you talking to ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How to flirt |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2011, 7:40 am
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Replies: 10
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flirting can be good for some people but i find it such a corny, popular-culture way of going about things
the key is finding someone you get on with really well: by that time you won't even think about flirting, you'll appreciate them for being different |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "the move?" |
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Posted: 31 May 2011, 4:51 am
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Replies: 11
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| to the OP its important to not too get worked in the event of rejection as the woman could be totally the wrong one! you have to find a relevent "connection" between the two of you before advancing. if you find that you truly understand each other, it won;t be that difficult to "make the move" I hav... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: the kiss test (a how to for aspies and dating) |
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Posted: 29 May 2011, 2:08 pm
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Replies: 39
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Peko wrote: Sounds like a pretty good breakdown. I just keep thinking that life would be so much simpler if people simply asked something along the lines of "may I kiss you?" But social niceties make life so complicated  .
i'd swap "may i" for "i want to". |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Never dated, never had a boyfriend and never been kissed. |
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Posted: 29 May 2011, 1:57 pm
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Replies: 56
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obichris wrote: Here is my theory:
NO NO NO. don't make a theory about humanity in general because even if the theory is right for one person you're referring to, there are still 6 000 000 000 people in the world you haven't accounted for |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Never dated, never had a boyfriend and never been kissed. |
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Posted: 29 May 2011, 1:40 pm
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Replies: 56
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| well its not just about social interaction: even if the interaction is done properly per se, that won't guarantee that the othe person has mutual feelings to be honest, i can't really offer any advice until their is a consice description of what went on... would anyone describe themselves as 'shy' a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Never dated, never had a boyfriend and never been kissed. |
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Posted: 29 May 2011, 5:25 am
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Replies: 56
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| to the OP... I know this might sound a bit harsh of me but can you outline the main reasons why you think you might not have been so lucky with dating? talking it through might shed soe light on why things haven't been working. I'm definitely not having much luck in this department although trying t... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Does anyone meet up in Birmingham U.K anymore? |
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Posted: 06 May 2011, 9:06 am
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Replies: 35
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| i still can't get onto that site aspie village: the administrators still haven't approved my profile. how long does the approval process usually take?? help!! you need to have a good job and a car to join there I hear, or be very pretty or social. they have some criteria. i am pretty social althoug... |
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