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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Does it take a really long time to be able to drive? |
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Posted: 14 Oct 2010, 10:19 am
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Replies: 60
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| I'm 21 and I got my license on the first day possible, so I've had it for over 4 or 5 years. The first few years I had my license, I drove about 2 times. Now I'm driving a lot more and I'm getting comfortable quickly, although I'm still awful at navigating unfamiliar places. I think NT's often suck ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Job Interview Tips for people with Asperger's Syndrome: |
| RyanS |
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Posted: 13 Oct 2010, 4:55 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 20,992
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| (edit: thanks to the original poster. I read some of your advice before I went to the interview. knowing what to do isn't too difficult... the more challenging part is doing it under some pressure. preparation helps with that.) I just got back from an interview and, assuming I pass the urine test, I... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I've met this wonderfull person |
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Posted: 12 Oct 2010, 9:57 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,601
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| From what I can tell... in a similar situation, I wouldn't just tell her all my feelings and desires for her right away. I recommend... you show her you're interested in friendship. Ask her for a chat or a casual date, somewhere pleasant and relaxing. Don't confess your eternal love or secret obsess... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do you need a romantic relationship in order to be happy? |
| RyanS |
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Posted: 12 Oct 2010, 9:36 pm
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Replies: 33
Views: 6,695
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Well, when I say what the romantic relationships should be _____, I mean that as one kind of ideal romantic relationship, but there are other kinds since the term is ambiguous.
edit: The term is ambiguous because there are other kinds. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do you need a romantic relationship in order to be happy? |
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Posted: 12 Oct 2010, 9:31 pm
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Replies: 33
Views: 6,695
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| Babies... Perhaps it's possible, but I have never had a romantic relationship that was similar to my relationship with friends and family... The physical intimacy I feel with a potential mate is very different for me, and the fact that I haven't spent years of my life with her makes her interesting,... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Ok, wow, first boyfriend, help :| |
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Posted: 12 Oct 2010, 9:11 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,971
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| Well, you could be open and honest, and tell him more about yourself. There are a lot of benefits to being honest in relationships, and if you're capable of admitting the truth to both yourself and him you should feel comfortable. It's easier said than done, but it's worth a try eventually. A relati... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is refusal to do homework an Aspie thing? |
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Posted: 12 Oct 2010, 1:22 am
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Replies: 56
Views: 8,684
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| I almost never did work at home, and I rarely studied, but be careful not to generalize the problem too much. It's not so simple as that unfortunately. Luckily success isn't necessarily related to good grades, but you should try to teach him the importance of at least passing high school and let him... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Being happy with yourself... |
| RyanS |
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Posted: 12 Oct 2010, 12:29 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 3,494
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| silly me, I didn't forget the author, but it's a certain version of Benjamin Franklin's autobiography. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Being happy with yourself... |
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Posted: 12 Oct 2010, 12:28 am
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Replies: 20
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| Well, I'll just recommend a few books and authors I like that might give you some motivation and useful information. You can try The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand, The Old Man and the Sea by Ernest Hemingway, Human Action by Ludwig von Mises, or... how about an autobiography of Benjamin Franklin :D. Actu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Being happy with yourself... |
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Posted: 12 Oct 2010, 12:22 am
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Replies: 20
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| It's complicated, but basically... learn philosophy, learn to understand your desires and thereby justify your existence. You can start by thinking of how the universe might have originated, how it works and how you originated. It is difficult, but it's doable. If you have the time, read and apply p... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: empathy= no AS? |
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Posted: 11 Oct 2010, 11:08 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 2,745
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| Regarding one point, the diagnosis can help you understand and accept some of your problems, whether or not you have AS. I've also felt the same way about my acute empathy, but at some point in my late teens I became very detached emotionally. A girl was the final cause of that, but I think other fa... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Having trouble getting things done |
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Posted: 11 Oct 2010, 10:56 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 2,244
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| I have some advice, similar to schleppenheimer's. Message me if you have questions. Firstly, breaking the tasks into small parts helps with continual motivation. The first part is easy to do, and once you've gotten into a task you may go far into it with much less trouble. The other aspect is the mo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Love and Dating Positivity Thread |
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Posted: 11 Oct 2010, 8:33 pm
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Replies: 92
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It's cool that you are being active and trying to help people, sunshower. I think a lot of people deserve the compliments they'll hopefully receive here, whether in this thread or another.
good job : ) |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: 13 year old gamer/author |
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Posted: 11 Oct 2010, 8:14 pm
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Replies: 12
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| PS Many writings are published online, and available for free download. You can try Google books, gutenberg.org, or mises.org if you're interested in Politics, Economics, History or the history of Economics and Politics, as well as a few other academic subjects. Anyway a google search of your intere... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: 13 year old gamer/author |
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Posted: 11 Oct 2010, 8:10 pm
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Replies: 12
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| There's no need to rush. Reading and learning will make you a better writer too. I don't remember where, but there are several places where writers can share their essays, stories, books online and interested people will read. Of course there are many sites where that's possible but some intended fo... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: 38 years old, just diagnosed,a certain relief, but perturbed |
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Posted: 11 Oct 2010, 7:58 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,188
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| Hello mate. I'd like to say a few things, and as always, I sincerely mean them. There are solutions for all your problems, whether you need to change your actions or change your thoughts. But there's no need to be overwhelmed by it. Seek whatever pleasures you can in life, and make whatever progress... |
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