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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Letting down your friends |
| IMCarnochan |
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Posted: 30 Aug 2012, 1:33 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 926
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| If they are your friends, then they get whats up with you. My friends know that if I pick up my kindle and go into another room I am overloaded and need to decompress, there is no issue. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Screw you, Facebook. |
| IMCarnochan |
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Posted: 24 Aug 2012, 6:34 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 2,052
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| Just make sure you dont read an article about how to dispose of the body of your boyfriends female friend. That would get way more awkward:) |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Asperger's And Maturity: How slow did you grow up? |
| IMCarnochan |
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Posted: 21 Aug 2012, 7:01 pm
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Replies: 38
Views: 5,523
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| I was 80 when I was 5, my wife now says I am about 12 and I am physically 35. I figure in a few years I will be a zygote. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Adult child of Aspie who is retired |
| IMCarnochan |
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Posted: 21 Aug 2012, 6:49 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,088
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| I would try to find him a group or something to provide structure. Work provides structure and a trellis for holding up the social skills. |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Should this teacher be allowed to work with children? |
| IMCarnochan |
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Posted: 21 Aug 2012, 4:21 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 3,893
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| I wonder how my usual technique of yawning and then asking "I'm sorry, did you say something?" would have gone over with him... Or looking intently and then asking him if he knew he had a really long nose hair sticking out... I made my own fun in school. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are we more prone to Fear of Intimacy? |
| IMCarnochan |
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Posted: 21 Aug 2012, 4:16 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 3,614
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| I never feared intimacy, I just never understood it. People may just as well have been speaking japanese when talking about their feelings, I learned to fake it before I learned to "feel" it. I find my black and white attitude and strong memory tends to make forgiving harder than normal people. I al... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: AS Husband Really Needs Advice |
| IMCarnochan |
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Posted: 21 Aug 2012, 4:11 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 7,989
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| I have made sure to communicate with my wife that she has to tell me what she is thinking and I will tell her what is going on with me. I reserve the right to answer her question with "I am processing too much now, I will get back to you." That way she knows I am not blowing her off, I just can't ge... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Could buddhist monks have "ASDs"? |
| IMCarnochan |
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Posted: 21 Aug 2012, 4:05 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 2,463
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| I have often thought that being a monk would be interesting. I shied away from it due to the usual religion issues, but I think many scientists are monks, effectively, spend time alone, thinking, working with their minds in an austere setting. I simply came to the conclusion that I like novelty too ... |
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Forum: Computers, Math, Science, and Technology Topic: Has anyone plugged in a notebook computer to a monitor? |
| IMCarnochan |
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Posted: 16 Aug 2012, 8:41 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,590
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| Depends on the video output capabilities of the laptop and the screen it is being connected to. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: College Girlfriend (I Hope) |
| IMCarnochan |
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Posted: 16 Aug 2012, 6:33 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,218
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| Nervous excitement is a normal reaction to a big change like that. There are very many females at most colleges and also an experimental time for many, so have fun! |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Recently self-diagnosed 57 year old. |
| IMCarnochan |
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Posted: 16 Aug 2012, 4:14 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 1,132
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| One of the dichotomies of being diagnosed, self or otherwise as something with potential anti-social ramifications is that talking to people helps. It helps one to see that they are not "the only one" who are the way they are. It takes a weight off of ones shoulders and you can learn new coping tech... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Trouble with communication |
| IMCarnochan |
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Posted: 16 Aug 2012, 2:45 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 807
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| You could always just make up a few index or business card notes saying whatever you want to communicate. "Thank you for attempting communication, but I'm not here right now, please leave a message." or "Its not you, its me, now leave me alone" depending how cheeky you are. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Gifts and intensity of emotions. Please, share. |
| IMCarnochan |
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Posted: 16 Aug 2012, 2:35 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,188
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| One of the gifts I have is the ability to learn many things, being a jack of all trades master of none. I pick up skills, non language and artistic quickly. I have used this to learn to be social to the point that neurotypicals that I deal with for normal social periods of time have no idea. As long... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are you always in the way of someone? |
| IMCarnochan |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2012, 6:51 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 2,277
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| Over the years computing peoples vectors has become a normal part of people interactions. In small areas with low numbers of people it isnt too bad but I find myself avoiding really crowded places. Too much data to take in. Then I usually try to get my back against a wall so I can recalibrate. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Should I even try this? |
| IMCarnochan |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2012, 6:37 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,264
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| As long as you can keep yourself emotionally divested from her beforehand, I say go for it. If you are already infatuated, then back away slowly. I have done the former effectively and been in the trap of the latter a few times and it has never worked out well. |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: My new job is not working out, but I don't know what else :( |
| IMCarnochan |
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Posted: 04 May 2011, 5:12 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 4,196
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| Why do you think you are going to be fired? |
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