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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is everyone incompatible, or just us? |
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Posted: 01 Dec 2016, 12:51 pm
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| I agree, Outrider. It seems to me that many NT geeks or ND geeks can bond about a specific video game, video games, comics, and other fandoms. I see many friendships start because of a TV show or other "geek" hobby. The rest of us, who are not into a popular or cool subculture, may have tr... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Is there such a thing as a wasted life? |
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Posted: 08 Oct 2016, 11:32 pm
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Replies: 71
Views: 6,584
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| On another day I might say no there's not such a thing, but I feel like my life is being completely wasted. I don't want to waste my life, but things are not working out. I keep having to do unpleasant work just to make ends meet, and having to skip over things I need, and having verbal conflicts wi... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Methods of coping when stress is higher |
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Posted: 04 May 2016, 10:46 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 149
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| I am extremely stressed because of many things happening at once. They are going to happen no matter what I do. I would like some ideas on how to get through the next few weeks. I have very few coping strategies that I use regularly, and I need more. My strategies are writing or talking about the pr... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: A different 4 Stages of Aspergers – Where are You? |
| dreamy |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2015, 4:38 am
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Replies: 78
Views: 12,476
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| I went through Disbelief/Denial, Curiosity, Fascination, (self-diagnosis), more Disbelief/Denial, pseudo-Acceptance, Ignoring, Uncertainty, pseudo-Acceptance, Fascination, more Disbelief/Denial, Acceptance, Confusion, Curiosity, Depression, Acceptance, Frustration, (real diagnosis), Anger, Depressio... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Substitutes for human bonds. |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2015, 4:28 am
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Replies: 37
Views: 6,227
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| I enjoyed the contributions to this thread. AS have limited need for social bonds. In fact, that what we need, is not the social bonds themselves (as opposite to NTs) but those what we can gain from them: the possibility to discuss, to undertake common initiatives, to exchange ideas etc. IMHO this e... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Over-expressive-face (your own?) |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2015, 3:54 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 10,500
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Yes overly expressive here too. Except if I'm nervous, I may have very little expression.
I also have the problem where I look mad or sad when I think I'm looking neutral. (There was a thread on this where I wrote I have to smile or people think this, and it gets so tiring smiling.) |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Do you like muscular men? |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2015, 3:45 am
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Replies: 22
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Webalina wrote: Damn right. Not fake bodybuilder sinewy muscular, but natural construction-worker, lumberjack muscular.
This.
Muscles would be nice, but I'm also attracted to other body types. (Body hair can be a real turn off.) |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: "Girly" Doctors |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2015, 2:40 am
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Replies: 2
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| I agree with Planned Parenthood. You could also ask a nurse at your college. But don't assume the college would keep it private, ask, or get suggestions for some other low cost or free clinic. Everything is different with your first love. Also, any new relationship has a "honeymoon phase" ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Help? |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2015, 2:34 am
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Replies: 3
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Try to find tops that are stretchy, so they won't be loose in some areas.
Different stores (and different brands within most stores) can vary by a half or whole size, possibly more. |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Doctors who discount the diagnosis |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2015, 2:30 am
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Replies: 3
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| I was wondering if anyone has advice on doctors who won't believe I have AS. Like many female Aspies, I am good at hiding it. I am diagnosed but most doctors think I can't have it, because I look too normal. If it's a GP, I can dump him and get another. For specialists, I cannot replace them without... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Fell for a girl who is ASD, but she is in very dire straits |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2014, 2:23 pm
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| I agree with the other posters that you should not get involved. I have heard so many stories of men having years of their life eaten up trying to help someone, like the other poster said. You understand this and are trying to be careful. The problem is that if you spend time helping her or just hav... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Adult female diagnosis. Pros, cons, and process |
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Posted: 01 May 2013, 11:55 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 94,737
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| Sorry about your bad experiences, and thanks for posting in this thread. I know NTs who regretted marriage, kids, career too. I hope you don't beat yourself up too much for those because they are common paths and people will always push others into them. |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Adult female diagnosis. Pros, cons, and process |
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Posted: 01 May 2013, 11:51 pm
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Replies: 34
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| I read some other threads and I don't want the diagnosis anymore especially because they might try and pin others on me. In a few generations the stigma might be gone but now it's crazy either way you go, with or without diagnosis. |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Adult female diagnosis. Pros, cons, and process |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2013, 1:02 pm
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Replies: 34
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| Thanks for sharing those details. I don't want to go through that. Did you see that psychologist/psychiatrist just for testing for AS, or did you know they were testing other things? I already have other diagnoses, but I don't need more besides AS. Most likely they would give me more diagnoses that ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Adult female diagnosis. Pros, cons, and process |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2013, 7:25 am
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Replies: 34
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| Sorry you had clueless doctors. They were extreme in their statements. It is incredible how misunderstood AS is for women, especially adult. I would only consider an assessment with one that knew how to diagnose women. I recommend you do the same and travel to a doctor who another woman recommends. ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Adult female diagnosis. Pros, cons, and process |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2013, 1:36 am
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Replies: 34
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| I am glad it's benefited you so much. I know some other people never got formally diagnosed but they accepted it as their diagnosis, and still got those benefits. You mentioned the cognitive test results matching. I know I match and I'm an Aspie female. I wonder if some tests might not show it. I ma... |
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