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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How an awkward, Aspie teen girl attracts a bae. |
| ArtemisHolmes |
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Posted: 17 Dec 2015, 11:39 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,380
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| As I almost grow out of my teens (turning 20 soon!), and as a guy who's pretty well-adjusted, sociable, and got a good head on my shoulders, my advice is just to keep trying! Attractiveness by far isn't the top quality I look for. Kindness/compassion, loyalty, and honesty are big to me, as well as s... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Terrified |
| ArtemisHolmes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2015, 7:49 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 488
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| I was a kid and my mom brought me to a carnival. We went inside a circus tent, and the performance was so loud I felt like I was going to explode. I begged my mom for us to leave. By the time I convinced her to leave, though, I discovered that I'd gotten slightly used to the noise, and the performer... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How common is this? |
| ArtemisHolmes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2015, 7:39 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 743
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| I've had that happen to me occasionally. I'd have two friends, right, who were friends with each other as well - and sometimes I'd hear from one friend that the other friend that ___ about me sometimes. It turned out to be right, and I worked on myself a bit, and now I'm better friends with both of ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "Date other boring people if you're boring." |
| ArtemisHolmes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2015, 7:30 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 2,719
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| You don't want to date a boring person - 'boring' itself has a negative connotation, right? So it's like saying "Should I date people I don't want to date because some people don't want to date me?" You want to date someone who finds you interesting. It's okay if your interests are obscure... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How do I kill my love for someone? |
| ArtemisHolmes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2015, 7:35 am
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Replies: 48
Views: 2,520
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| Some people really fall for others they can't have. I hear it's sometimes why women are attracted to men already in relationships, though that's obviously not always the case. Getting rid of your infatuation? My approach would be to logically, systematically destroy any reason as to why I should con... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Getting jealous |
| ArtemisHolmes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2015, 7:26 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 505
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| In a platonic way? Usually no, I don't really get jealous. I'm not everybody's best friend, haha! However, for my best friend, I occasionally get jealous when my bestie's spending more time doing other stuff rather than talking to me. I've come to accept it's not me at fault, or my best friend at fa... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: 21 day challenge |
| ArtemisHolmes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2015, 7:15 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 516
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| How are you doing on the challenge? |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Letting Go |
| ArtemisHolmes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2015, 7:14 am
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Replies: 1
Views: 283
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| There was someone I really, truly hated. He was practically the opposite of what I thought a good person should be like. It's been awhile now, and I've let go in two stages. First, I turned the hate into pity. I pitied him; he'd never know happiness or success in the manner I would, so long as he re... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What friendship feels like |
| ArtemisHolmes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2015, 7:08 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 613
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| What friendship feels like? "Hey man, can you do me a favor and get me some lunch on your way here?" -- 2 days later: "Hey man, I'm gunna stop by and get you some lunch since I know you don't have time to get any." "Hey, I just kind of want to vent about this professor."... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Small talk cheats-phrases to initiate a conversation with s |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2015, 7:02 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 871
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| Depends on the context. If you're in a restaurant, ask what's good, if they know. If you're anywhere near a food place, ask them what is good int he area, if they know. If it's a classmate, ask how they did on the test/homework, have they done it yet, etc. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Trouble Maintaining Connections |
| ArtemisHolmes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2015, 6:45 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,008
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| I was in an LDR too. I remember we were talking about our greatest fears, and I said mine was her disappearing, that she'd ignore me and I wouldn't hear from her again. About a year in the future, irony struck; I got really busy with college, and we went from texting 50+ times a day to maybe twice a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Boyfriend with Aspergers? |
| ArtemisHolmes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2015, 6:21 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 3,156
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| You can let him know you still care for him, but I think you need to establish ground rules. You can't tell him that he's not at fault at all. He did some terrible things, and you don't want those things to keep happening, right? That means he needs to shape up. Having Aspergers doesn't mean he can'... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: can a 5' 6 guy still be attractive? |
| ArtemisHolmes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2015, 5:56 am
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Replies: 95
Views: 11,125
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| Nope. Actually, no guy 5'6" and shorter is married. All the seemingly happy couples out there with short guys are actually because he's got hired hitmen nearby threatening to kill her if she shows any sign of not wanting to be with them! I gave a sarcastic response above because I think you kno... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Yet another "I have no idea how-to-romance" thread.... |
| ArtemisHolmes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2015, 5:50 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 707
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| All the things you suggested, like saying "Hey, I think we may like each other - want to do something about it?" sound like awesome initiaters to me, as a male (not sure if I'm an Aspie or not). It's blunt, which cuts through some of the initial flirting/realization stage of liking each ot... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspergian Singles List 2.0? |
| ArtemisHolmes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2015, 3:53 am
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Replies: 181
Views: 118,661
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| Hey, I'm Adam! Nice to meet'cha, stranger! *extends hand for a handshake* If you're interested in being more than a stranger after reading my basic traits and whatnot below, message me! Gender: Male Age: 20 Attracted to: Women Location: Chicago, IL Profession: Physics Student Special Interests: Phys... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Can someone with ASD be an Alpha male? |
| ArtemisHolmes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2015, 3:15 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 3,363
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| Yes. I'll make a modification to what many parents say: "You can be anything you want to be - within reasonable physical possibility." It may take growth, and a long time of continually trying (and failing, but learning each time), but you can change as a person. For me it takes months, if... |
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