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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers and Depression |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2014, 10:14 pm
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Replies: 25
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| .[/quote]I can understand this. It is a very difficult situation and he will have to do a lot of work to help deal with this. I feel emotions very very strongly and I know that many of us do. I believe that many people on the Spectrum feel emotions much more deeply and strongly than NT's. So what an... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers and Depression |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2014, 8:36 am
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| Thanks for your replies. His dwelling on the past relates to the way he has been treated by people. His mother was both emotionally and physically abusive to him. I have witnessed (even now) her ongoing dismissive attitude towards him when he is speaking. Then there are the arguments in our marriage... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers and Depression |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2014, 5:37 am
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| Hi, I am the NT wife of a man diagnosed with aspergers 3 years ago. We have been married 12 years and before diagnosis neither of us had any idea what was going on with our communication and why things were so bad. We had, effectively got to the point where we were both abusing each other verbally a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Could this be an aspie trait? |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2012, 7:45 am
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Replies: 16
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| One thing is to hold grudges, another is his behavior. I just wanted to make it clear for any NT spouses reading this thread: kicking walls to have one's way, alienating one's loved ones through self-righteousness, not taking responsibility for one's issues, dumping one's frustrations on others, et... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Could this be an aspie trait? |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2012, 11:54 pm
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Replies: 16
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| I don't think being a nudge is an AS trait. It could be childhood trauma. In any case, whatever the root cause, I would've long ago tuned him out, who can stand such a thing. I bet he's this way only with you guys and not with his boss, the boss's secretary and the rest of the people he needs to im... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Could this be an aspie trait? |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2012, 10:35 am
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| and just another thing to add to this. this not forgiveness behaviour is now affecting the relationship between him and our 12 year old daughter. As she is reaching puberty and doing the whole "teenage attitude" thing. So she is a bit offish with him some weeks ago. He dwells on this and as a result... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Could this be an aspie trait? |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2012, 10:20 am
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| Hi All. Long time since I have been on the forum. Now 18 months later my husband has official asperger diagnosis by the Autism Association. It has been an incredible journey. I am wondering........ my husband has a big problem with forgiveness and this is causing a massive issue for us. He is rememb... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: husband never believes me |
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Posted: 14 Nov 2011, 6:17 pm
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Replies: 8
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| I had the same problem with my aspie ex and he called it his social issues :roll: I should have said to him if he is so literal, then start taking exactly what I am saying and stop translating it. But I didn't think of it at the time. Yes.......... there appears to be some variation on what the wor... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: husband never believes me |
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Posted: 12 Nov 2011, 7:09 am
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| my husband was diagnosed with aspergers earlier this year. Having an understanding of this has helped some of our communication difficulties, but it has also bought about some realisations for me about his belief factors. Specifically, he never trusts what I say. I have to repeat things many times o... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Arrested for Domestic Violence |
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Posted: 27 Aug 2011, 8:37 pm
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Replies: 26
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| the police told me that a vast majority of their work is drug and alcohol related violence. it's abysmal and makes me wonder what is happening to the human race. saying that; my husband's violent episodes do not happen every time he drinks. there are months or even years in between episodes and thes... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Arrested for Domestic Violence |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2011, 11:50 pm
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Replies: 26
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| Actually, the reason is the other way around. I have lived in this house for 20 years. I don't see why myself (the main income earner) and my children should be forced to move. I agree this is a totally dysfunctional situation. I do the best I can with the resources I have available to work with. I... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Arrested for Domestic Violence |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2011, 10:51 am
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| Argentina - it's quite understandable that you care about your husband, especially if he's the father of your children. It's also quite understandable that you don't want him to ruin his life - particularly if by ruining his life he'll also be doing damage to yours or your childrens. I don't do any... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Arrested for Domestic Violence |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2011, 10:15 am
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| you have a restraining order in place so you obviously hate him and want him out of your life. That is quite an assumption. A restraining or "personal protection" order does not automatically reveal either hatred or wanting someone out of one's life. haha, it's pretty hard to be in somebodys life i... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Arrested for Domestic Violence |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2011, 9:57 am
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| i have to confess i find this thread disturbing. there's clearly a reason why argentina sticks around, perhaps her aspie husband owns the house or has some other thing which she will need and lose if she leaves with the kids. fellow aspies : if you find yourself in a situation with a person like th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Arrested for Domestic Violence |
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Posted: 24 Aug 2011, 10:33 am
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| Don't let that man in your house again. The next time he comes to your house, call the cops on him. Husband lives in the house with me. I got a restraining order under the same roof. I did not want to kick my husband out in the street and neither would the law have granted this. Husband has no frie... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Arrested for Domestic Violence |
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Posted: 23 Aug 2011, 6:58 am
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Replies: 26
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| My husband was arrested on the weekend for 1) breaking restraining order - I took this out 2 weeks ago to put boundaries in place 2) physically assaulting me - pushing and pinning me down 3) property damage - punching hole in the wall He is due to go to court in a couple of weeks. Husband was under ... |
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