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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Eligible Odd-Bods! - The Premier Aspergian Singles List |
| anewman |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2014, 12:44 pm
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Views: 1,333,566
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| Name: Alan Sex: Male (Straight) Age: 33 years (Chronologically) Location: Newport, South Wales, UK Physical: 6'3". Overweight (previously obese and aiming for "normal") Education: Psychology BSc and MSc Occupation: Statistician Religion: None (often known as Atheist) Other info: Non-smoker, rarely d... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is it easier for gay or straight aspies? |
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Posted: 16 Dec 2013, 9:37 am
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Replies: 26
Views: 2,231
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| I think as straight forms the majority of society, it's easier to conform with those norms than it is to go through the added pressure of trying to determine if someone is gay. I guess the easy way around this is to go to gay dating websites/bars. There's this post that may be of some interest from ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Girl gave me her business card |
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Posted: 16 Dec 2013, 9:31 am
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Replies: 26
Views: 5,906
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| Yep I'm inclined to go along with the "it's just a business card". I also agree that some women use "coming on" to men as a sales tactic, and we're not just talking prostitutes here. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Tell someone at work you fancy them to get a rejection? |
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Posted: 16 Dec 2013, 9:22 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,997
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| There is a further update to this issue. We were chatting again (instant messaging) and talking about how things were at work. Since I've told her about my AS, I brought up the topic. I told her I got the impression I made her nervous when we talked in the office verbally. She said I didn't make her... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I feel like a creep. |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2013, 1:29 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 2,008
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| I don't see any issues with the age difference here, only 3 years. Her apparently lying about her age is of some concern though. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: abstaining from premarital sex, thoughts? |
| anewman |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2013, 1:14 pm
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Replies: 75
Views: 7,922
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| To me involving marriage in the equation is a bad thing. It's when you feel right and comfortable it becomes appropriate. Abstaining from premarital sex is for the religious fanatics/loons, who also call cohabiting "living in sin". A decent human being (not getting in to gender stereotyping here as ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Any Aspie Economists? |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2013, 10:11 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 937
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| I studied Psychology at University. I didn't have a clue what job I would do after, to be honest, and just saw it as the next challenge after College. I ended up working as a Statistician. Some people work as Economists in the same organisation, though I have little insight into the work they do - t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Men, would you date a hot girl with a crap personality? |
| anewman |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2013, 10:04 am
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Replies: 62
Views: 7,749
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| Never. Personality is more important than looks every time. Personality is the primary thing that attracts me to someone, and looks are a bonus. Though something that would put me off is if someone was morbidly obese, though I think this would be reflected in their personality in such a way as to pu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Acceptance and Denial |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2013, 9:54 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,337
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| The worst possible advice ever is to say some other advice is bad, without offering a better alternative. I would not read too much into the words "for now". The way NTs use language for now could just as easily mean forever. If it's any consolation I am in a somewhat similar position, though the ob... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Job interviews and disclosure of Asperger's |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2013, 11:12 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,493
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| For me, in the end it was disclosing the Asperger's that getting the job hinged on. Though this is in the public sector where they are more forgiving than the profit driven private. If I kept it to myself I think I'd still be unemployed. This is also one of those very grey areas because people diffe... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: People sharing lunch bothers me. |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2013, 10:56 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 634
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| I see everyone asking each other to lunch, and sharing lunch together, but noone has ever bothered to ask me. I know they probably feel I am not approachable, but it does feel to me like social exclusion and it really gets me down. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Tell someone at work you fancy them to get a rejection? |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2013, 10:50 pm
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Replies: 11
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| Those Christmas parties are now over. We started playing Words With Friends on Facebook. I played the word "date" and quipped I would like one of those. She asked if I had met someone. I replied it was more someone I liked than had met. She asked if they came from the area I live. I said no, they we... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Broken Relationship |
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Posted: 27 Nov 2013, 7:28 pm
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Replies: 30
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| I've not read all the replied. But the thing that strikes me about your post is a theme that has often come up in my love life, and that I have seen to be extremely destructive to other people. I.e. staying in a relationship because someone pays you some attention, and staying in seems easier than g... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Tell someone at work you fancy them to get a rejection? |
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Posted: 27 Nov 2013, 6:40 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,997
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I generally avoid alcohol and like to remain clear headed. Since I think both will be driving, I doubt there'll be much drinking anyway  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I can still hit on girls |
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Posted: 27 Nov 2013, 6:31 pm
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Replies: 29
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| So... what you're also saying is that the woman who you find attractive is presently free to hit on, seduce, and enthusiastically have a go on all sorts of hot guys ? I mean, it's not like you're really in a relationship together... right ? :chin: It kind of goes with the assumption. Though I dare ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Tell someone at work you fancy them to get a rejection? |
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Posted: 27 Nov 2013, 6:16 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,997
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| There is someone at work I very much fancy and have done for some time. Even though I know fancying them is a bad idea, and probably can't lead anywhere, I can't help the feelings. The biggest issue, well not my eyes but is likely to be in her and her friend's/family, is that I am 33 and she is 10 y... |
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